It’s been four months since the miscarriage. Some days grief shows up, more intensely for me and more subtly for Aaron, and we continue to practice what we’ve learned on how to love and help each other better.
For couples going through grief from miscarriage, here are some things we’ve learned that we’d like to share with you.
As a design graduate, I found them artsy and inspiring to watch—and imagining having a taste of their “perfect” life helped me keep my mind off the restrictions we were facing because of COVID. So at first, I didn’t see anything wrong with watching these videos. However, when it became more of a habit, I began to see how these videos would influence my life in negative ways.
God’s family is like no other.
While can’t choose our earthly family, God chooses us to be a part of His family.
It’s scary to be a Christian in today’s workplace.
If anyone finds out that we’re a Christian, there’s a good chance they will automatically assume we are haters, bigots, and racists. We will have awkward conversations defending our views on religion. So it’s natural that we want to stay quiet, never let anyone know that we’re a Christian, and avoid any talk about Jesus.
We’re all drawn to building our lives on the foundations of money, success, and recognition.
I will confess that I, too, was like that—wanting to be recognised for doing amazing things and to have wealth that would place me somewhere near the top of the social strata.
When I was growing up, I remember asking an adult “Why don’t you believe in God?” Her response stunned me: “If God was real, I wouldn’t have had seven miscarriages in a row.”
Whether we go through cancer, lose a loved one, experience mental ill-health, or even just turn on the news, suffering is a universal experience. And it evokes within each of us a question that we rally at the God who claims Himself to be both powerful and good: How can God allow it?
Yet, as I have learned in the nine short months that I’ve been married, there were things—situations, emotions—that I had imagined differently when I was single. Close friends of mine who were also newlyweds, shared similar sentiments.
Having now been on both sides, my hope is that what I’m about to share will benefit two groups. First, to encourage those who are dating and waiting to get married to consider how they could prepare themselves emotionally. Second, to encourage those who are single to reconsider some assumptions they may have about marriage that may not be entirely accurate.
How often do we give our internal batteries a check-up? Do we “plug” ourselves into things that recharge and refuel us when we’re dipping into empty? Or we do stuff our tiredness away and soldier on?
Late last year, I left my teaching job of 15 years—a job that gave me security, despite the constant struggle of balancing work and family.
I had been feeling drained and discouraged for the past two years. Although I often prayed to God for strength to get through the challenging days, I found the work culture was stifling and toxic. At times I couldn’t even breathe or sleep well at night.