How God Rewrote My Love Formula
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I started my search for love at 21. I used to dream about the ideal guy—Christian, older, tall, handsome, a true gentleman.
I wanted to create a “formula” for love, beginning with a checklist. Although I’d always been told to trust God for a partner, having a checklist felt like I was at least doing something on my part.
When Office Gossip Left Me Embarrassed
Believing that it’s usually the guy who’s expected to make the first move, I was afraid that people would be laughing behind my back and making negative comments about me. Truth was, I felt ashamed about having been “rejected romantically”.
Are We Over-Spiritualising Our Love Lives?
In Bible College (or “Bridal College” as it’s also known), I was asked out on a date by a guy whom I had clearly stuck in the friend-zone list. But my friends encouraged us to be together because we were “so perfect for one another”. And he seemed to be everywhere I happened to be—surely this was a “sign” from God.
Dear Younger Self, It's Time to Break Up and You Know Why
You probably didn’t expect that you’d be here today, thinking about whether you should break up with your non-Christian boyfriend.
What I Wish My Younger Self Knew About Lust
There’s one thing I need to warn you about. You’re going to struggle with lust, and I’m sad to say that a lot of it will stem from these three lies that you will—or already—believe about sex and intimacy.
Red Flags You Should Never Ignore
I was dating the “edgy Christian guy” who played guitar in the worship team and wore cool shoes. He also exhibited small but worrying behaviours at times, but I figured I would be able to fix them.
Does it Matter Who Makes the First Move?
I was the one who made the first move by asking my then-boyfriend (now husband) out. We first met online and after an encouraging conversation, I initiated a coffee date.
Leaning on God in the Season of Heartbreak
Last year was a tough one for me. I thought I could end up with someone whom I considered my best friend and my safe place, but it did not happen as I’d hoped.
Dealing With the Aftermath of a Bad Breakup
On the surface, we might’ve looked like a happily-in-love couple, but beneath this façade were fears, misunderstandings, anger, and doubts built up due to silent treatments and unresolved arguments.