“There’s an African church in another part of town. Perhaps that would be better for your husband.”
That was what a lady said to me one Sunday as l was chatting with someone in the church courtyard before the morning service.
At the start of each relationship, I was worried that I wouldn't find a suitable life partner. My trust in God had begun to waver. The resulting feeling of desperation caused me to compromise on aspects that should’ve been clear non-negotiables when looking for my future husband.
With “merry lattes” to go and gingerbread settlements taking over window displays, it is safe to say another Christmas has come calling. Yet, for me, it’s also another Christmas in the shadow of disease, social distancing, and degrees of despair.
Some months ago, I noticed that an acquaintance had become distant and cold towards me. When I asked about it, the person told me that it was because I had overreacted about something during our last exchange. I understood their perspective and apologised, but it became clear that a point of no return had been reached for them.
Hey friend, let me just start off by saying that I know how you feel. There could be a spectrum of reasons why being a Christian might feel irrelevant, or just an obligation at best.
Or maybe you’ve become too accustomed to the comforts of living in the 21st century, having every need met and every desire satisfied with just a click of a button.
In both extremes, the cry of the heart can be surprisingly similar—"Why bother with God?”
I was four years old when I told my mum that I’d like to get married when I’m older. “Because,” I told my mum excitedly, “I’d like to wear a white dress—just like Cinderella!”. I’m now in my 30s, and I'm still single.
Relationships are precious and just like with your relationship with God, it requires time and effort to build strong, trusting, and healthy relationships in life. Relationships can come in many forms and can bud when you least expect—they can be beautiful, and relationships can be difficult. If you’re looking for Christian advice on how to maintain and grow healthy dating relationships, or if you’re looking to strengthen relationships with friends, family, co-workers, and neighbors, read these articles to see how the Bible offers practical wisdom to help you.
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