Dating doesn’t have to be a foggy experience. Instead, dating should be a season of clarity—to clarify whether you and your partner are ready to move on to marriage together.
Here are seven areas to help us make the most of our dating season and gauge our readiness for marriage:
I did not have the best relationship with my father when I was growing up.
Like most Chinese fathers of his generation, my dad provided financially for the family and brought us on outings and holiday trips. However, I did not find him to be very emotionally present or expressive. In my head, I knew he must love me, but in my heart, I did not feel that he delighted over me or enjoyed my company.
I’m sure we’re all familiar with broken relationships. Perhaps these negative experiences might have tempted us into thinking that maintaining true and deep friendships are unnecessary and bothersome.
But the Bible tells us that we are made to relate to others, and not live in isolation (1 Cor 12:12-27), as is evident from what we have experienced during the lockdowns around the world.
I was sitting in the car, on my way to meet my church group, when I began thinking about this question: “Who is Jesus to me?” Our church group was about to start a “Back to Basics” study series, and it made me realise how everything I’ve learned and believe in as a Christian all goes back to Jesus. But in that moment, as I thought about what Jesus meant to me personally, I was drawing a blank.
I could understand what the children’s pastor was saying: anything that distracts us from God, causing us to doubt and seek comfort elsewhere, is sinful.
But is the feeling of loneliness sinful or just what we do with our loneliness? And if it’s not good for man or woman to be alone, is it a sin if he or she is?
Relationships are precious and just like with your relationship with God, it requires time and effort to build strong, trusting, and healthy relationships in life. Relationships can come in many forms and can bud when you least expect—they can be beautiful, and relationships can be difficult. If you’re looking for Christian advice on how to maintain and grow healthy dating relationships, or if you’re looking to strengthen relationships with friends, family, co-workers, and neighbors, read these articles to see how the Bible offers practical wisdom to help you.
YMI (which stands for Why Am I?), is a platform for Christian young people all over the world to ask questions about life and discover their true purpose. We are a community with different talents but the same desire to make sense of God’s life-changing word in our everyday lives.