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Why Is It So Hard to Go Back to Church After Getting Hurt?

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Growing up, I had always wondered why those who have left church found it hard to come back. I saw old friends, mustered pained smiles, said respectful hellos to some of the elders . . . but it just didn't feel the same.
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When I Was Betrayed by a Fellow Christian

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Some time ago, there was a situation that made me extremely angry, to the point that I raised my voice and slammed my hands on the table
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How to Respond When a Friend Confesses Their Sin

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It was 1:05 a.m. A friend had just sent me a long message, asking for prayer because she was struggling with physical attraction towards her colleague even though she was already in a committed relationship.
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Can I Confess Something?

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We had just finished a study and were about to share our prayer requests when one of them began by saying: “If you could please pray for me, I feel like I’m addicted to shopping. Like maybe I’m spending a bit too much buying things that I don’t need.” When I heard this, I felt crestfallen. Not because there was anything wrong with what she had shared, but because I suddenly felt like I could not be as honest with my own confession.
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Surviving Sexual Assault: Why It Has Been Difficult to Forgive the Church

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I was crushed when allegations against the late apologist, Ravi Zacharias, emerged, and I read about how RZIM initially refused to believe the women who accused Zacharias of sexually assaulting them. As a victim of sexual assault, I grieved for the helplessness they would have felt.

When Forgiveness Doesn't Seem Fair

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Growing up in church, I watched people testify to what they called, “God’s grace.” From my perspective, what I saw was people sharing about horrible mistakes and poor choices they had made, and how God had seen them through the challenges that followed.
The Rejected & the Redeemer

The Rejected and the Redeemer

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When we look at Jesus’ life, we see that he had many radical interactions with people who were marginalized—those who had fallen to the fringes of society because of sin, shame, judgment, or even physical defect and sickness. 

How to Argue with Your Significant Other

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What comes to mind when you hear the word argue? In the past, it denoted something negative in my mind—quarrels laced with pent up frustration and misunderstanding. I hated arguing because of the resulting tension and awkwardness, so I would avoid it at all costs.

Why I Decided Not to Leave My Church

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The questions themselves were good, but I realized something was off the day my pastor preached about how we needed to step up as parents, and I left service wrecked with a heavy sense of guilt. You see, I don’t have kids.