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When Forgiveness Doesn't Seem Fair

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Growing up in church, I watched people testify to what they called, “God’s grace.” From my perspective, what I saw was people sharing about horrible mistakes and poor choices they had made, and how God had seen them through the challenges that followed.
The Rejected & the Redeemer

The Rejected and the Redeemer

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When we look at Jesus’ life, we see that he had many radical interactions with people who were marginalized—those who had fallen to the fringes of society because of sin, shame, judgment, or even physical defect and sickness. 

How to Argue with Your Significant Other

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What comes to mind when you hear the word argue? In the past, it denoted something negative in my mind—quarrels laced with pent up frustration and misunderstanding. I hated arguing because of the resulting tension and awkwardness, so I would avoid it at all costs.

Why I Decided Not to Leave My Church

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The questions themselves were good, but I realized something was off the day my pastor preached about how we needed to step up as parents, and I left service wrecked with a heavy sense of guilt. You see, I don’t have kids.
7 Questions to Start the Year Right

7 Questions to Start the Year Right

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Like the seven Old Testament feasts God put in place, holidays can be a selah of sorts. So maybe you still have a day or two of holiday time left. If so, I hope these prompts (designed for “prinking” over—that’s praying and thinking) can help breathe some fresh air into your soul for the next year.

When I Can't Let Go of My Hurt

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I was mid-conversation with my mom when she dropped the latest story on me. I had thought we had passed the phase of accusations. I had thought that it’d been long enough that my grandmother would want to let go of whatever she was harboring against me.

Surviving Sexual Assault: How I'm Learning to Forgive My Abuser

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The assaults left no physical scars. My rage and bitterness felt like the only tangible signs I had to demonstrate that something terrible had happened to me. If I just forgave her, was I telling everyone that the injustice didn’t matter?

When I Was Offended By My Church

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I couldn't believe that they actually mailed me a letter. When I had completed the Small Group Leadership Training several weeks earlier, our Campus Pastor had informed the class that at the end of the training, some of us would, unfortunately, be receiving a letter stating that we were not currently fit to be small group leaders. I brushed off the possibility.

Moving From Guilt to Freedom

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My heart was tense. I kept remembering the recent conversation with my former church leader. I had explained to her my decision to leave for a new church, and apologized for letting her down.