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One and Whole: How I Learned to Love Being Single

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When our leader closed the session by praying that all of the singles—me included—would soon meet Mr. Right, it reinforced my impression that even within the church, many see singlehood as something for a woman to wait out, to cope with, to endure. The way the world—and even the church today—views singlehood is a striking contrast to Paul’s take on it as laid out in 1 Corinthians 7.
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30+, Single, and Trying Not to Settle

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Even though he’d listed “Christian” on his profile, it became apparent that he didn’t have a relationship with God. The more we spoke, the more the signs of a life void of God revealed themselves. After my last breakup nearly four years ago, I knew that the next person I dated had to both love God and be God-fearing. It should have been a no-brainer. But as I considered the choice that lay before me, I faltered.
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Is Loneliness a Sin?

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I could understand what the children’s pastor was saying: anything that distracts us from God, causing us to doubt and seek comfort elsewhere, is sinful.  But is the feeling of loneliness sinful or just what we do with our loneliness? And if it’s not good for man or woman to be alone, is it a sin if he or she is?

Regardless of your Status, Happy Valentine’s Day!

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Psst, looking for love? No matter your marital status—single, dating, married, or widowed—you ARE cherished and loved.

There's More to Celebrate than Marriage and Babies

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I see my phone light up with an incoming facetime call from one of my best friends. While we’re very close, we don’t usually facetime each other unannounced. I do the math.

The 11 Myths Of Singleness

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This Single’s Day, come with us as we debunk the 11 myths about singleness and help each other rethink how we can better relate to singles in our midst, and encourage each other to pursue the identity that matters most.

Singleness in the Church: 3 Ways We Can Do Better

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Let’s name something that probably doesn’t get mentioned enough: The church as we know it today custom tailors a lot of its activity to the family. From ministry programs to sermon applications, even to the term “family-friendly,” our churches operate with families in mind as their primary audience.

3 Ways to Embrace the Gift of Singleness

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Singleness was never a gift I asked God for. Instead, I have always desired companionship and to start my own family, so the more years I move up in my twenties, the more tempted I am to detest this gift and “exchange” it for the gift of marriage.

3 Things I've Learned As a Single in My 30s

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Now that I’ve hit my 30s, the reality that I might remain single for the rest of my life, and that life would more or less remain status quo looms over me with each passing year. On a larger scale, this journey of singleness has taught me three important things about God’s provision and purpose for my life.