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5 Things I Didn't Realise Until I Got Married

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Yet, as I have learned in the nine short months that I’ve been married, there were things—situations, emotions—that I had imagined differently when I was single. Close friends of mine who were also newlyweds, shared similar sentiments. Having now been on both sides, my hope is that what I’m about to share will benefit two groups. First, to encourage those who are dating and waiting to get married to consider how they could prepare themselves emotionally. Second, to encourage those who are single to reconsider some assumptions they may have about marriage that may not be entirely accurate.
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Love (ft. Marriage and Divorce): Squashing the Happily-Ever-After Bubble

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When I first saw the promotion clip for Netflix’s K-drama, Love (Ft Marriage and Divorce), I knew I had to watch it. Finally, a drama series that deals with the realities of marriage instead of the usual cheesy love narrative that has become the hallmark of most K-dramas. 
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When God Didn't Answer My Prayer for a Relationship

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I sat on the couch as tears dripped down my face. I had willed myself not to cry, but I felt as if a small tiny knife had lodged in my heart, and each breath drawn only served to push the metaphorical knife further into my heart. I replayed the text message in my head: “It’s someone I have started seeing, but nothing official at the moment.”

Regardless of your Status, Happy Valentine’s Day!

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Psst, looking for love? No matter your marital status—single, dating, married, or widowed—you ARE cherished and loved.

4 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Embarking on a Relationship

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My years of being single (and not by choice) were difficult for me. From my teenage to young adult years, I was sure something was ‘wrong’ with me, that’s why I was not ‘dateable’. But now that I’ve entered into a romantic relationship for the first time, I’m glad I took time to seriously reflect on these soul-searching questions.

7 Practical Ways to Deal with a Breakup

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We were both Christians who loved God, loved each other, and enjoyed serving in various ministries together. Everything seemed right on the surface. Yet, our relationship deeply troubled me. It felt like we were short-changing ourselves most of the time.

What My Failed Relationships Helped Me See

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Over the last nine years, I’ve had two failed relationships, which came about through a mix of unforeseen circumstances and poor decisions. Though they may not be comparable to others’ experiences, they were painful, took a toll on my mental health, and affected my view of love for a short time. But by God’s grace, they have not completely shattered my view of love.

When My Hopes for a Relationship Was Dashed

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For a good half year, I had been trading messages with someone I had just gotten to know. Wisdom gleaned from dating sites and friends had me convinced that he was interested in me—otherwise, why would he be messaging me every day? Surely, there had to be  an interest of some sort involved, right? “He might ask me out any day now,” I thought. Sadly, I was so wrong.

When God Gets the Timing Wrong

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“I’ll graduate university, get a good job and then get married by 24,” my friend predicted confidently, as a group of us chatted over lunch in our all-girl high school.