When I settled into a new church and took on significantly fewer commitments, my husband summed up my new season with these reassuring words: “You can rest now, Sarah.”
But some days I still find myself unsettled, having given up more than I’d anticipated.
What if I fail?
This thought haunted me, to the point where I felt breathless, like I had been kicked in the gut.
I was the one who made the first move by asking my then-boyfriend (now husband) out. We first met online and after an encouraging conversation, I initiated a coffee date.
It has been nine months since my husband and I exchanged our wedding vows, and every time I look at my husband, my heart grows warm with gratitude. Every day I am amazed at how good God is to have brought him into my life.
Some people would probably dismiss this as a “honeymoon” phase, especially those who see marriage as a scary commitment, rife with burden and trouble.
As I write this, I have just said “no” to listening to my mother’s resentments about a close family member. I told her it would be better for them to talk things out instead of using me as their confidante.
I grew up in a family where we were reminded to not “just sit there” but to keep our hands busy and help others out. This has made resting unsettling for me, as it seems to be the same as “doing nothing”, which doesn’t make sense when there’s always something to be done.
On New Year’s Day this year, great anticipation gripped my heart as I walked down the aisle. At the altar stood my soon-to-be husband, Kaizer. We had finally arrived at our long-awaited moment—our first kiss.
The world has conjured for us the image of the “perfect Christian”—that we are to have squeaky clean conduct, and always be doing good deeds. After all, didn’t our God ask us to be perfect as He is perfect (Matthew 5:48)?
How do we navigate the mountain of decisions before us daily and not be paralysed into inaction? As believers, is there a better way to make decisions? What are the biggest considerations we need to be mindful of?
Here are four useful questions we can ask ourselves through the decision-making process.