Entries by Jane Lim

5 Ways I Learned to Love My Dysfunctional Family

My family has always been what some might describe as ‘textbook Christian’: We go to church every Sunday, and attend fellowships and retreats. We read the Bible, join Bible study groups, and hold Bible study sessions at home. We believe that a family that prays together stays together.

And yet, it has always been painful for me to see how much conflict and tension we have in our home.

Can I Confess Something?

We had just finished a study and were about to share our prayer requests when one of them began by saying:

“If you could please pray for me, I feel like I’m addicted to shopping. Like maybe I’m spending a bit too much buying things that I don’t need.”

When I heard this, I felt crestfallen. Not because there was anything wrong with what she had shared, but because I suddenly felt like I could not be as honest with my own confession.

5 Things I Didn’t Realise Until I Got Married

Yet, as I have learned in the nine short months that I’ve been married, there were things—situations, emotions—that I had imagined differently when I was single. Close friends of mine who were also newlyweds, shared similar sentiments.

Having now been on both sides, my hope is that what I’m about to share will benefit two groups. First, to encourage those who are dating and waiting to get married to consider how they could prepare themselves emotionally. Second, to encourage those who are single to reconsider some assumptions they may have about marriage that may not be entirely accurate.

3 Ways Jesus Has Made a Difference in My Life

I was sitting in the car, on my way to meet my church group, when I began thinking about this question: “Who is Jesus to me?” Our church group was about to start a “Back to Basics” study series, and it made me realise how everything I’ve learned and believe in as a Christian all goes back to Jesus. But in that moment, as I thought about what Jesus meant to me personally, I was drawing a blank.