6 Ways to Be a Better Friend

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Recently, my friend shared that he doubted if he would still be a Christian if it weren’t for the friends who were there for him in 2018. That was the year he had lost a very dear cousin to sickness. And then, barely two months later, the rest of his cousin’s family members died in a tragic road accident. My friend was devastated, and struggled to understand why God allowed for it to happen.

Please Hurry Up and Interrupt Me

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My speed unintentionally suggests to those around me, “Let’s get this over with because I have things to do.” And I wish I could say that walking fast is the only way I’ve communicated to others that they are not as important as my schedule...

When My Good Deeds Backfired

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It had been some time since I had a meal with an elderly friend of mine, so I was looking forward to catch up with her. But what I hoped to be a fun catch-up quickly turned into an awkward one when my good intentions backfired.

It Sucks to Not Be Invited

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It's 1am, and I can't sleep. My heart is heavy and my mind is full of unpleasantness.  I shouldn't be feeling like this. I've spent the past few days having a great time with people I love. But still, seeing the Instagram stories from dozens of friends who are hanging out at something I wasn't invited to—it hurts. A lot.  

4 Ways to Relate to Someone Who Thinks Differently From You

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It’s been an eventful year, and unless you’ve been living under a rock, you’ve surely noticed that everyone around you has a different, often heated, opinion about ongoing events.

5 Ways You Might be Cannibalizing Your Personal Conflicts

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Conflict is often full of such. . . loss. Loss of closeness, of dignity, of whatever was precious to us that someone trampled on. But would you believe me if I told you conflict is an opportunity?

When Strangers Opened Up Their Home to Me

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“Why are you still looking for housing options? I’ve told you that you can come stay with us. We have a room for you,” Cheu said. This gentle rebuke has stuck with me for a while—even after I’ve wrapped up my five-month stay at her family’s apartment in New York, and now returned home to Singapore—as a reminder of such ordinary, yet radical, hospitality.

3 Steps to Loving Those Who Drive You up the Wall

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Every day, we pray for new strength so we’d be able to walk out Jesus’ call to love our enemies and pray for those who persecute us (Matthew 5:43-44). But, at the end of each week, we’re worn and exhausted, and find ourselves throwing mental darts at our enemies.

How We Can All Experience Some Good from Conflict

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Her demeanor was the first signal. The way she averted her eyes when I looked in her direction. Then, as we walked past her on our way out of church and my husband bid a friendly goodbye, her silence confirmed it—she was upset.