4 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Embarking on a Relationship
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My years of being single (and not by choice) were difficult for me. From my teenage to young adult years, I was sure something was ‘wrong’ with me, that’s why I was not ‘dateable’. But now that I’ve entered into a romantic relationship for the first time, I’m glad I took time to seriously reflect on these soul-searching questions.
Letting Go of My Relationship for Good
“Do you trust me to provide for all your needs?” I heard God ask. Through tears, I was staring at a piece of paper with the words “REQUEST FOR CANCELLATION OF APPLICATION BEFORE BOOKING FLAT”. Yes, I trusted that God would take care of me, but having to physically pick up a pen and sign on the form in that very moment was the hardest thing I ever had to do.
7 Practical Ways to Deal with a Breakup
We were both Christians who loved God, loved each other, and enjoyed serving in various ministries together. Everything seemed right on the surface. Yet, our relationship deeply troubled me. It felt like we were short-changing ourselves most of the time.
How I Knew My Husband Was “The One”
As a teenager, I’d lie in bed and wonder what my future husband was doing at that very moment, wherever he was in this world. He was breathing, blinking, thinking, living, and I wondered: When would we meet? Would I know that he was the one?
What My Failed Relationships Helped Me See
Over the last nine years, I’ve had two failed relationships, which came about through a mix of unforeseen circumstances and poor decisions. Though they may not be comparable to others’ experiences, they were painful, took a toll on my mental health, and affected my view of love for a short time. But by God’s grace, they have not completely shattered my view of love.
When My Hopes for a Relationship Was Dashed
For a good half year, I had been trading messages with someone I had just gotten to know. Wisdom gleaned from dating sites and friends had me convinced that he was interested in me—otherwise, why would he be messaging me every day? Surely, there had to be an interest of some sort involved, right? “He might ask me out any day now,” I thought. Sadly, I was so wrong.
When God Gets the Timing Wrong
“I’ll graduate university, get a good job and then get married by 24,” my friend predicted confidently, as a group of us chatted over lunch in our all-girl high school.
What If I Marry a Non-Christian?
He loves me. He’s a wonderful person—attentive and caring, generous and kind. He respects my faith, and even comes to church with me occasionally. Actually, he’s everything I could want in a partner. . . save for the fact he’s not a Christian.
The ABCs of Battling Lust in Dating
We did everything we possibly could to be pure before the Lord: we read articles and memorized verses, prayed and reflected over each struggle, and instituted physical boundaries. Yet almost every single time we met, everything we'd learned flew out of our heads. If you struggle with lust in your courtship as we did, I'd encourage you to take this season of self-isolation to pray and discuss with your significant other the basics—or what I call the ABCs—of pursuing joy in the Lord, and fighting sin.