Entries by Kezia Lewis

Marriage Does Not Bring a Happy Ending

I had a difficult conversation with a friend about her upcoming wedding not too long ago. Defending her love for her fiancée, she asserted, “He deserves a second chance. He deserves to be happy and have a happy ending.”

Will God Give Me More Than I Can Bear?

“God will never give you more than you can bear. He will give you only what you can handle.” In the early years of my walk with Jesus, I found these words comforting whenever challenges arose.

When Our Church Leaders Fail

Lately, news of church leaders’ failures have become common. We hear of pastors committing fraud, embezzling church money, or getting involved in scandals involving pornography or extramarital affairs.

The World Calls Me a Hypocrite . . . Am I?

I once met a lady at church who touched me with her behavior. She would raise her hands during worship, and cry and belt out the songs with an obvious ache vibrating in her voice. During prayer time, she would plead with us to pray for her. I wanted to embrace her.

Sex: What are you waiting for?

I grew up in a dysfunctional non-Christian family, but my mother raised me to be responsible, conservative, and cautious, to the best of her ability. Though I was not explicitly taught to wait for marriage before having sex, I knew that this was the right thing to do. So I waited.

Follow Your Heart . . . Really?

Follow your heart, and do what makes you happy. People offered me this advice countless times while I was growing up. They said it was the secret recipe to living a pleasurable, joyful life.

Orphan to Queen: What I’ve Learned from Esther

“You can’t do this. You are not prepared for this kind of work.” “You don’t have what it takes to fulfill this role, so don’t accept it.” “There are others who can do the job better; let them do it.” I have a confession to make: I hide behind the veil of my flaws to […]

Of Love and Marriage: Who is “The One”?

I’ve only been married for four years of my 34 years in this world, so I am hardly an expert when it comes to love and marriage. Yet somehow, because I am married, I get asked this question by many single friends: “How did you know Jason, your husband, is ‘the one’?” So, how did […]

How I found Freedom from the Illusion of “The Right One”

The Lie Somewhere out there is my Mr. Right. When I find him, I will be whole and happy. I bought this lie. And I don’t think I’m the only one. As the rising numbers of broken families and failed marriages attest, many of us have bought into the fantasy of “the right one” as […]