5 Things to Consider When You’re At the Crossroads

Are you at the crossroads? Does it feel like your entire future depends on the decisions you are about to make?

Perhaps it’s what school to attend, what subjects to study. Maybe it’s what job to take, or whether to leave a current job. Perhaps you are thinking about dating, or even marriage. What are the consequences of these decisions? How do we know what best to decide?

As you stand at the crossroads, looking forward to unknown futures, here are five things to consider:


1. What does the Bible say?

The Bible is given to us by God. It is the Word of God, and is sufficient in equipping us for whatever situations we might face (2 Timothy 3:16-17).

There are some situations the Bible speaks directly about. Adultery, for example, is clearly prohibited (Matthew 5:27-28). So is playing favorites (James 2:8-9). We’re also given guidance that can be applied broadly to nearly every decision we make. Be willing to forgive (Matthew 18:21-22). Love one another (1 Peter 4:8). Live your life in Christ, rooted and built up in Him (Colossians 2:6-7).

Does the Bible have clear teachings applicable to your current situation? If so, prayerfully follow the clear directions God has given us. If not, here are a few more things to consider. . .


2. Have you checked your motives?

As we deal with the uncertainties of the future, we must also carefully check our motives. We need to dig deep, and figure out what emotions are at play.

Are we leaning toward a certain decision because of fear? Are we going after something because we feel the need to keep up with our peers? Or are we trying to get back at someone because of something they did?

The Bible reminds us, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it” (Proverbs 4:23). Let us pray and ask for God’s help and forgiveness as we confront any unhealthy, or even sinful motivations.

Whatever decision we ultimately make, let it come from clarity of mind, and purity of motive.


3. Are you praying about this?

Pray continually,” Paul reminds us (1 Thessalonians 5:17). How much more so when we face an unknown decision?

We can pray for a pure heart as we make decisions (Psalm 51:10).

We can pray for wisdom that God grants generously (James 1:5).

We can pray for the Holy Spirit to guide us (John 14:26).

We can pray for courage to make a hard decision (Hebrews 13:6).

We can pray for peace amidst the unknowns (John 14:27).

We can also pray about the specifics of our decisions. After all, God knows all of our unknowns. And when we pray, we are reminded that God is with us. He will give us what we need to make the decision.


4. Have you sought godly counsel?

Christians were never meant to walk alone. We are “no longer foreigners and strangers, but fellow citizens with God’s people and also members of his household” (Ephesians 2:19).

We can certainly find brothers and sisters who walk with the Lord and have the insight and experience that we lack. Let us take advantage of that and seek out mature Christians we trust (Proverbs 12:15). They may be able to offer advice or perspective we have not yet considered. And more importantly, they can join us in prayer. “For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them” (Matthew 18:20).


5. Do you trust God’s foresight?

Finally, let us be reminded that while we don’t know how things will turn out, God does. Though we may make the best decision possible under the circumstances, we cannot foresee all the potential implications of it.

And that’s okay. God knows our shortsightedness. He knows our limitations. And He’s accounted for them. Whatever we end up deciding, whichever path we end up taking. . . God already knows. He will walk with us every step of the way, and He will work things out in His own time (Proverbs 3:5-6).

5 Lies to Stop Believing About Yourself

It’s often easy to get caught up in what the world says is important and become distracted from who Christ says we are. To keep from falling into that trap, let’s look to the Bible for some sure antidotes:


Lie #1: You are your job

Our jobs can consume a large portion of our identity. But we must remember that while God calls us to work diligently (Colossians 3:23-24), we work to serve the Lord.

Who we are is not defined by the job title we hold, but what Christ has done (Galatians 3:26). So let’s focus on how we can use the work God has given us to glorify Him and walk out our identities as sons and daughters of God.


Lie #2: You are your good works  

Our plates are often loaded with all sorts of expectations from our culture, family, and even church about how we should conduct ourselves.

In the midst of trying to honor God with our actions, we can find grace for our shortcomings, and reassurance that the greatest command we have is to love God with all of our heart, understanding, and strength (Mark 12:30). Instead of conforming to the pressure to prove ourselves, we can focus on our relationship with God and know that as He refines us, fruitful works will flow out of our love for Him (Ephesians 2:8-9).


Lie #3: You are your relationship status

What comes to mind when you think about who you are? Is it the fact that you’re dating or single? Whether you’re a child or a parent?

But our confidence does not come from the people around us. The truly defining relationship, the one that undergirds every other relationship we have, is the one with God: “Yet to all who did receive him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God” (John 1:12, emphasis added).


Lie #4: You are your personality

Personality tests are fun and can help us better understand our strengths and weaknesses. But we need to be careful that we do not allow these tests to limit the way we see ourselves.

Here’s what God told Moses when he complained about being “slow of speech and tongue”: “Who gave human beings their mouths? Who makes them deaf or mute? Who gives them sight or makes them blind? Is it not I, the Lord? Now go; I will help you speak and will teach you what to say.” (Exodus 4:11-12)

God is bigger than our personality! He is the creator of all, and can help us overcome any weakness or challenge He sees fit (2 Corinthians 12:9).


Lie #5: You are your past

Sometimes, we unconsciously allow our lives to be defined by our past experiences or choices—and feel like we can’t move on because we’re trapped by our mistakes.

But because of Christ’s sacrifice, we are free from our past. Even if we continue to deal with the consequences, we do so knowing Christ is already victorious—and that He is calling us to an identity defined by the future He has won for us:

. . . I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining towards what is ahead. I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 3:13-14)


Whenever we’re tempted to allow these five lies to define how we see ourselves, let’s pray that our identity will be rooted in these truths: We belong to God. We were made in His image. He has redeemed us. He will make us new.