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3 Steps to Loving Those Who Drive You up the Wall

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Every day, we pray for new strength so we’d be able to walk out Jesus’ call to love our enemies and pray for those who persecute us (Matthew 5:43-44). But, at the end of each week, we’re worn and exhausted, and find ourselves throwing mental darts at our enemies.

Caught in Conflict? Start Asking Yourself This Question

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Her demeanor was the first signal. The way she averted her eyes when I looked in her direction. Then, as we walked past her on our way out of church and my husband bid a friendly goodbye, her silence confirmed it—she was upset.

When My Personality Made Me Feel Inferior

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“S”—supportive. This implies I am someone who tends to play a support role better than a leadership role. That I am always on the agreeable side, and prefer to follow, not to lead. When I searched my heart, I knew that I did naturally tend to accommodate and value harmony, and I really had no desire to lead.

When Your "Neighbor" Is Really Hard to Love

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She referenced me by a racial slur and made it clear she didn’t like me, or other light-skinned black people. I was shocked and hurt that she would say those things right in front of me, but with this realization, everything started to make sense.

Why I Decided Not to Leave My Church

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The questions themselves were good, but I realized something was off the day my pastor preached about how we needed to step up as parents, and I left service wrecked with a heavy sense of guilt. You see, I don’t have kids.

When Striving Made Me Ugly

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I had just come out of a season of serving as a worship leader and coordinator in my campus ministry. God moved powerfully and the students grew in their intimacy with Him, and in the knowledge of Him. However, with great growth came great challenges—in the form of relational conflicts.

Are You Afraid of Halloween?

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Halloween is one of the most widely celebrated holidays in America. People dress up in costumes, go to parties, and talk to neighbors they’d otherwise ignore. Kids run up to houses chanting “trick or treat,” expecting to receive plenty of candy. But Halloween is often controversial in Christian circles because of its pagan origins. Should we embrace it or boycott it?

3 Healthy Ways to Handle Conflict

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A few Sundays ago, an acquaintance of mine from church pulled me aside before the morning service to talk to me about a weakness in my character. She thought that l was too occupied with accommodating other’s needs in church, that I neglected my own needs.

The Day I Broke A Promise to My Husband

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“Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry” (Ephesians 4:26b). This verse was close to our hearts as my husband and I went through pre-marital counseling. We promised each other that we would not allow anger to fester overnight, that we would make up and forgive each other before the day was over.