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Confronting Conflict the Healthy Way

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Imagine a life devoid of conflict, disagreements, and hurts. And even if any one of those arose, we can happily shake on it, and agree to disagree. How happy and enjoyable our lives will be!  Unfortunately, because we’re all sinful beings and we live in a broken world, conflicts do and will arise in our everyday lives. 

4 Ways to Relate to Someone Who Thinks Differently From You

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It’s been an eventful year, and unless you’ve been living under a rock, you’ve surely noticed that everyone around you has a different, often heated, opinion about ongoing events.

5 Ways You Might be Cannibalizing Your Personal Conflicts

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Conflict is often full of such. . . loss. Loss of closeness, of dignity, of whatever was precious to us that someone trampled on. But would you believe me if I told you conflict is an opportunity?

3 Steps to Loving Those Who Drive You up the Wall

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Every day, we pray for new strength so we’d be able to walk out Jesus’ call to love our enemies and pray for those who persecute us (Matthew 5:43-44). But, at the end of each week, we’re worn and exhausted, and find ourselves throwing mental darts at our enemies.

How We Can All Experience Some Good from Conflict

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Her demeanor was the first signal. The way she averted her eyes when I looked in her direction. Then, as we walked past her on our way out of church and my husband bid a friendly goodbye, her silence confirmed it—she was upset.

When My Personality Made Me Feel Inferior

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“S”—supportive. This implies I am someone who tends to play a support role better than a leadership role. That I am always on the agreeable side, and prefer to follow, not to lead. When I searched my heart, I knew that I did naturally tend to accommodate and value harmony, and I really had no desire to lead.

When Your "Neighbor" Is Really Hard to Love

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She referenced me by a racial slur and made it clear she didn’t like me, or other light-skinned black people. I was shocked and hurt that she would say those things right in front of me, but with this realization, everything started to make sense.

Why I Decided Not to Leave My Church

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The questions themselves were good, but I realized something was off the day my pastor preached about how we needed to step up as parents, and I left service wrecked with a heavy sense of guilt. You see, I don’t have kids.

When Striving Made Me Ugly

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I had just come out of a season of serving as a worship leader and coordinator in my campus ministry. God moved powerfully and the students grew in their intimacy with Him, and in the knowledge of Him. However, with great growth came great challenges—in the form of relational conflicts.