Any single lady will eventually come to a point in life where she questions whether the guy she is dating is the one she wants as her life partner. The same is true for guys. Unless you have the gift of celibacy, there will always be this aching desire within you to be pursued, cherished, needed, and loved by another individual of the opposite sex.
Here is my story.
You see, there’s this amazing Christian guy I met in church. I hadn’t noticed him before, but somehow, it all started one day. We would call each other at night, talk for hours, go on dates like other couples, but we were not officially together. I was the one who suggested to keep our relationship under wraps.
Yet, I knew this wasn’t right. I knew if I were to seriously pray about it, God would have told me to wait for His timing. After taking into consideration different aspects (including the guy’s character and my own immaturity to be in a relationship), I decided to call it off. I told the guy we should stop going out like couples and stop calling each other affectionate names. We both suffered through that period of separation. We became strangers all of a sudden. For almost half a year, he stopped going to church. And then I saw him one night. My feelings for him resurfaced. But weeks later, I found out through a friend that he was interested in a new girl. The hurt and betrayal consumed me. I questioned God, “I’ve done what You wanted me to do. I obeyed You. I gave up precious people in my life just to please You. You know if I were to choose, I would choose You, God. Why is this happening to me? Have I made a wrong choice? Was I stupid to let go of someone like him?”
Though it was a difficult experience, God gave me the grace and peace to accept what has happened. Psalm 37:4 says, “Delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart.” While I have yet to see the shadow of my future life partner, I am not anxious about it. I know God has the best man for me in mind. He always has and always will. Until the right man walks in, let us focus on loving God and His people. There are much more important things to do for God’s kingdom as sons and daughters of the Most High.
Written by Edna Ho for YMI