5 Reasons to Join a Christian Fellowship

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Since young, I’ve been actively involved in Christian fellowship groups. To me, they provide a sense of being rooted, as I come from a family that was always on the move (literally). My father is a merchant navy captain, and so my family sailed around the world quite often. As a result, whenever I could, I took part in camps and programmes organized by Christian groups such as Malaysia Youth for Christ.

In university, I joined a Christian Fellowship (CF). That was when I started hearing comments from peers questioning the relevance of CFs in educational institutions.

“We’re involved in our own churches. Why the need for another Christian body?”

“I find it hard to fit in. Everyone already has their cliques.”

“We shouldn’t only be hanging out with believers. This is the time to build non-Christian connections!”

Those are valid concerns—after all, I had first-hand experience of some of these issues. There were times when we spent so much time together that we lost sight of other friendships outside the group. At other times, we failed to sharpen each other because we were too comfortable with the status quo.

But those concerns do not change the fact that there is value in such fellowship groups. My time in one of them gave some of my fondest memories and helped me grow as a believer. Here are five things I learned about the Christian walk during my time in a CF.


1. CF reminds us to keep meeting

The first-century church as described in the Bible is known for its organic nature. Believers came together naturally for fellowship, edification, and corporate worship. I saw those same characteristics in CF. They reminded me that the body of Christ is not just about gathering at a specific place or time.

Jesus promises that He is with us regardless of the place or time. That should encourage us not to give up meeting together, so that we can encourage one another (Hebrews 10:25) as often as we can.

2. CF teaches us to accept each other in love

My CF had some 70 members.That meant 70 very different individuals, including a mix of charismatics, traditionalists, second-generation Christians, and new believers. Most of the time, this diversity contributed to lively discussions. But they also caused unpleasant debates,which I—being a non-confrontational person—always tried to avoid.

Over time, God opened my eyes to see that disagreements were unavoidable because we were all flawed. More importantly, I understood that it was truly only by His grace that we could come together. None of us deserved to be there. Realizing this, we accepted each other in love, rose above the conflicts, and chose to focus on the things that binded over the things that divided.

3. CF is a place for growing and serving together

If left unchecked, a fellowship can turn into an exclusive club. There were times when my CF friends and I became so engrossed in the “fun” parts of fellowship that we lost sight of the need to include others and care for each other’s needs.We forgot that CF existed not to meet our self-absorbed wants, but to keep one another accountable as followers of Christ.

Thankfully, by God’s grace, we were always pulled back to the main purpose—to reflect the love of God. And we tried to fulfil that mission together. For example, towards the end of every semester, we’d set up a booth offering free coffee to students on campus. It was a small way to reach out to our fellow students,and it renewed our passion for others.It reminded us that we’re called to serve and love—and we don’t have to do it alone.

4. CF reminds us that life is more than assignments and grades

Who does not know the stress of an assignment deadline or cramming for finals? As students, the demands of our studies constantly threaten to overwhelm us.

But for one evening a week, we put our studies aside to worship and learn from the Word together. And every weekday at noon, we met to pray for our families, churches, and our nation. We journeyed through life together, celebrating each other’s birthdays and showing support at the loss of loved ones. In many ways, the fellowship of the body reminded us that studies, while a priority, was not the be-all and end-all of life.

5. CF is where you build friendships for life

Most of the friendships we forged in CF in university continue to thrive today. It is admittedly harder to meet now that we have our own commitments. But when we do meet, the camaraderie remains. I found that the relationships established in the three to four years of near-daily interactions helped me through the many transitions after school.These were the friends I counted on in the lead-up to, on, and after my wedding day.They supported me not just in planning, but also in praying for me as I adjusted to marriage.


Like church, the concerns over Christian Fellowships are understandable. But we can embrace the opportunities for authentic spiritual friendships that they provide.

3 replies
  1. sam mwaura
    sam mwaura says:

    Christian fellowship is nice when it works but in my experience church friends tend to stick as long as ua in their company …. when I lost my job at our church library those folk I thought would still be my pals all deserted me at the last minute …. we fellowshipped together and I even welcomed them into my home …. never have heard from them for the six yrs I have been away from my local church !!!! even the pastors I made friends with forgot about me the minute I left my church …. five yrs ago we shifted homes from the placed I was born and called home for 30 yrs …. never heard them looking for me all I saw were nagging text messages from someone but I never saw or heard of them in 8 yrs !!!! am not being bitter just telling my story …. Jesus said they will know us by the love we show each others …. but I moved on my life I live without real friends but I guess that’s been my lot in life since I left grade school 15 yrs ago !!! still not having real friends I guess Christian fellowship don’t work for everyone !!!

  2. Brynne Jones
    Brynne Jones says:

    I like how you mentioned how churches teach us to accept each other. It was helpful that you included how joining a church can help you focus on things that bind people together, rather than things that divide people. My brother hasn’t been to a church meeting in years. He has been unhappy and has had trouble getting along with those around him. It could be beneficial for him to consider attending a church service to help him build his relationships.

  3. Sabrina Addams
    Sabrina Addams says:

    I like how you pointed out joining a Christian group to be a way to escape the stresses of daily life. I am looking into joining one of my best friend’s bible study groups. Having a group go where I get to set aside my school and work stresses could really help me.


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