Can I Be A Christian K-Pop Fan?

Written By Lee Soo Yi, Malaysia, originally in Simplified Chinese

In 2007, a friend of mine introduced me to the world of K-Pop and it changed my life—I was in my third year in high school then. I bought into everything about K-Pop: the dashing good looks of the stars, their trendy dress sense, amazing vocals, and smooth dance moves. Just like that, I became a K-Pop fan.

I was obsessed with the hip-hop boyband, Big Bang. Besides spending a lot of money on their albums, merchandise, and concerts, I could go on and on with my friends on how good-looking they were. In university, I even spent almost 7000 NT (which is equivalent to approximately 216 USD) to watch their performance. I still remember that night vividly: the mood was exuberant, spirits were exceptionally high and everyone was singing and screaming to their hearts’ content. It was as though we didn’t have a care in the world. From that point onwards, I fell deeper and deeper into my obsession with K-Pop, or Big Bang, in specific.

I could not go on for a day without checking my phone for updates on Big Bang. I was constantly listening to their songs and regularly surfing their fan forums for the latest details about their lives. I was even called the “K-Pop Encyclopedia” because I knew every nitty gritty detail about K-Pop. And that went on till my second year in university, when I made a commitment to re-dedicate my life to God.   

Initially, I was extremely passionate about my faith. I cut down my contact with anything pertaining to K-Pop because I wanted to focus wholeheartedly on the person of Christ. But it didn’t last long. Gradually, my zeal started to subside and before I knew it, K-Pop took over my life again.

But this time, I struggled. In a bid to reconcile my faith with my interest, I decided to approach my church leaders with this question, “Can Christians be K-Pop fans?” They explained to me that it was fine to appreciate the beauty of Korean culture. However, we must be careful not to blindly idolize the Korean superstars such that they replace God’s place in my heart. While their statements made sense, I had no idea what it meant in the practical sense. To what extent then could I admire them? Could I still buy their albums, attend their concerts or fan meets? If their lives and actions were contrary to God’s Word, could I still like their songs?

So I continued to struggle whenever it involved a choice between God and Big Bang, such as, whether to attend church or their concert if it was held on a Sunday. I also found myself struggling to set aside time to read God’s Word and pray when what I really wanted to do was to watch their latest music video.

Deep down, I knew that Big Bang had slowly replaced God’s place in my heart and this could not carry on for any longer. While I knew what the right thing to do was, I struggled immensely. It was during this time that I decided to take these actions:

 

1. Pray to God.

I was trapped by my addiction to K-Pop and try as I might, I was unable to control myself and I did not know how to get out of it. That’s when I decided to turn to God in prayer and entrust all my concerns and struggles to Him. I asked Him to free me from my addiction to K-Pop and help me find true satisfaction in Him. I also prayed for wisdom to discern what I should and should not do as a K-Pop fan.

 

2. Acknowledge that K-Pop stars are just like each one of us.

It is alright for Christians to have hobbies, likes and dislikes. We tend to admire, like or notice those who are better than us or who are exceptionally talented. But the Bible tells us in Genesis 1:26-27 that God created man in His image—this applies to K-Pop stars too. They are created in God’s image and like us, are normal human beings (the sole difference being that they are public figures) and have failings. Once I acknowledged this truth, I was able to view them with the right perspective and not overly exalt them. It is not right to elevate any person or object to the status of God, unwittingly or not. As Exodus 20:3 tells us, God alone is worthy of the highest place in our hearts. He is the only one worthy of our wholehearted devotion and the only One who can satisfy our hearts like no other.

 

3. Make my interest count for God.

Initially, I tried to go cold turkey on everything that had the slightest association to K-Pop. I treated it as though it were a heinous sin. However, doing so only brought me great anguish and despair. One day, I had a sudden thought to pray to God and ask Him to give me wisdom to use this interest in a way that could serve Him. The thing is, I’m not exactly a relational person, much less one who would approach a stranger to share the gospel with him or her. But I was tasked by my church leaders to be involved in youth work and that required me to go out of my comfort zone. Initially, I had no idea how to start. But when I realized that a lot of young people like K-Pop, this interest of mine turned out to be a great conversation starter and bridge for me to establish rapport, and eventually share the gospel with them. This led me to the important realization that anything can be used for God’s work—even K-Pop. But here’s a caveat: I’m not saying that everything about K-Pop is permissible in light of the gospel. We still need to bear in mind 1 Corinthians 10:23 which says, “‘I have the right to do anything,’ you say—but not everything is beneficial. ‘I have the right to do anything’—but not everything is constructive.” It was only when I depended on God that I was finally able to see my K-Pop interest from God’s perspective.

 

4. Deliberately set aside time to spend with God.

Aside from asking for God’s help to curb our obsession, we can take other practical steps to guard our hearts. One way is to limit the usage of our mobile devices and instead, to spend time outdoors to admire His creation, reflect on His Word and on our lives. Let’s heed the call from James 4:8, “Come near to God and He will come near to you.” I came to realize that drawing near to God brings unparalleled joy and peace to my heart, which I will never experience—no matter how many concerts I attend. It is only when we grow in intimacy with God that we will learn to be less anxious and less tempted by the things of the world.

 

5. Pray for your favorite K-Pop star.

Like I mentioned earlier, K-Pop stars are humans too. They are weak and they need God as much as we do. So let’s pray earnestly and fervently for them that they too would come to know our great God so that they can be a light shining for Him. In the earlier days, I remember being very encouraged by Big Bang’s member, Tae Yang, who would publicly profess his Christian faith at his shows. And I’m sure I was not the only fan to feel that way. In light of this, let’s pray for the stars we like, that they would come to know God, reflect His beauty and goodness in and through their lives so that others would see and come to know God personally.

 

I’m thankful to God for knowing my difficulties and struggles and for drawing me out of my obsession to K-Pop. While I’m still very much a fan of K-Pop, especially Big Bang, I no longer obsess over them like I used to or feel uneasy if I don’t watch their music videos every day. Instead, what causes me uneasiness is when I don’t read God’s Word or spend time with Him.

Deep down, I know for a fact that God alone is the Lord of my life and nothing can take His place.  

54 replies
  1. Ope O
    Ope O says:

    This is so trur and relatable. Thank you so much for sharing. Love how you have practical help which I believe can not only be applications to K-Pop but other addictions as well.

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  2. Perdi
    Perdi says:

    Thanks for sharing this!! I used to be an obsessed kpop fan myself but when I re-dedicated my life to God, I fell even more in love with Him than any kpop idol. Will share this 🙂

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  3. Kezia
    Kezia says:

    Hi and thanks for sharing! I used to like KPop a whole lot, but then that died down. But now I’m currently reading a lot of manga, or japanese comics, and somehow it’s kind of like an addiction. Is there perhaps a way to be a Christian manga reader? It’s quite different in some ways than this because they’re not real. If you could make an article about it, that would be great, thanks!

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  4. Myra
    Myra says:

    Wow, i’ve been purposefully searching for this. I had this thought for about 3 years. I would never reveal this is person and even now, I’m embarrassed to type this…I came into college giving my life to Christ and I’ve enjoyed being a born again Christian. I learned the challenges and resistance and ignorance I had in those times. I had my sisters to support me in my walk as a Christian. It wasn’t until I stumbled upon a SNSD and 2PM, Cabi Song that I clicked on another Youtube video and it led to another and things spiraled down from there. I was hooked to Kpop. The idols just looked so pretty and perfect. I didn’t even really like their singing at first as I was used to soulful, powerhouse, signature voices of America. But I still watched SNSD videos because of the aesthetics and slowly got hooked to Kpop’s style of light, high-pitched, cheery voices. Now, I feel like I’m in a more dangerous place because there seems to be more talent than ever before at this time in KPOP. I found myself spiraling from group to group to group. I still remember it. It was SNSD, then 2PM, then MBLAQ, then B2ST, then Big Bang, then a never ending string of bands I got hooked to because of variety shows or Tumblr: 2NE1, KARA, Sistar, BAP, Block B, BTS, Got7 then back to BTS and BlackPink. Now I’m at a point where I wish to be skinny like the idols (I used to think Yoona was way too skinny and now I think she is the embodiment of perfection). I’m even inventing ideas in my head on what life would be like if I were an idol in their world. I know this isn’t what God wants for me because I’m even making up fantasies of my bias, Park Jimin (and other biases I had before him). I’m lusting…The scary part is how real and detailed they can be. I’ve read fanfic of my biases to spend time and could spend hours watching Bangtan Bomb videos, Crack videos and FMVs. I’m ashamed because I know that people won’t see God in the things I do. My heart is idolizing other humans. My heart is wanting pretty things and I feel empty because I know I can’t have or be near the pretty things I see. Then at times, I think I felt self-hatred because I wasn’t born asian (this is the sad part because I should love the life God gave me. I hope you understand I know that it’s crazy to think or feel this way). It’s horrible. I see the unhealthy side of this to the extreme. I am left feeling depressed and empty after watching videos of BTS having a great time or having fun. I tried thinking that they are humans who can still be dissatisfied with their Kpop idol life. I had a craving to be a part of their world. I felt as though I could relate or connect with them more. Even writing this all down, I feel ashamed because I stopped going to church as I would complain about not sleeping enough the night before or just wanting to curl in bed and watch Kpop videos. My close friend knew I was into KPOP. But then I made it seem to her that I got over it by not listening to it out loud or mentioning it, period. All because i felt like I was obsessing over them at this point. I love Kpop so much…to the point that I wish it didn’t exist so that I wouldn’t be so obsessed. My standards of beauty are more in the belief of Kpop beauty standards than God’s beauty standards. I feel as though I am wasting my time away. Like i could be out there studying hard for college finals rather than gushing over Jimin in videos. Or like I could be volunteering at a shelter and discovering a new side of me rather than reading fanfics. Or developing a better person in God rather than lusting after Jimin in the middle of the night. I really want to let go. I guess I have to slowly delete my accounts (I even wrote a fanfic that became popular. I realize I am leading other ASTRAY). I will definitely follow the steps you took. If possible, i hope you pray for me. I do want God to say “well done” at the end of my life. Thank you again for this.

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    • Ruth
      Ruth says:

      Hey Myra,
      I totally understand. My bias is jimin too, and I’ve also gotten really into k dramas.

      The one thing that you should start with is reading the Bible. I got the youversion app on my phone and Im doing the Bible in a year plan. At first you just rush and read the verses and devotionals but then you start to realize how much your thoughts have changed. I also added a few Christian songs in my phone amongst the Korean ones that I really like. One’s a Christmas song lol (Mary did you know by cee lo green) and the others are from playlists I found somewhere (hillsongs zion album is reaaally good and I also like needtobreath’s new music). I hope this helped <3 and sorry for the poor grammar (I'm on my phone and cba to go back through and change it) x

    • R
      R says:

      Hello, Myra! First of all I would like to apologize in advance for my poor grammar since english is not my primary language. So, you know I am very much like everyone who commented here. I spent so much time watching their videos, listening to their songs, tweeting about them, I could even go a day without taking a bath and just watching them. Until one day I attended their concert but since I’m poor, I can only afford an Upperbox ticket and so I wasn’t able to see Jimin clearly. I was left so heartbroken that day and I came up with a plan.. to save money and attend any fanmeet, music show or fansign in korea to see Jimin up close. But since I’m poor, when I got a huge amount of money from my work, I hesitated. I really want to see Jimin, but in my early Christian days, when I am still so in love with the Lord, I don’t save. I never save money. God will always reveal to me to give it away. And so when I receive my pay for my work, I really hesitated to save it for Jimin. I mean, I could help my poor family a lot with it. so i decided to just give it away to my family for our needs rather than save it for Jimin. I decided to give my dream (an earthly one yes, to see an artist. but you know, as I pray and seek God I have realized that God doesn’t despise earthly desires. BUT WE HAVE TO DELIGHT IN HIM. Delight in doing the will of God and let Him be the one to give it to us.) when I gave it to God I realized that I prayed more and more to Him since He’s the only One able to give my dream to me. But as I do so, God also used this dream of mine to make me closer to Him again. I cannot go on a day without His word or presence. I feel more desire towards praying to God and reading his word than spazzing about BTS. Now, although I still pray to God about wanting to see JIMIN in person, I had a change of heart in a sense that I realized that it is more satisfying to see GOD rather than him fulfilling this dream of mine. I dont know how to say it but I think my dream became of God. I can now go a day without watching them and listening to their music or spazzing about them. I no longer lust after them. I still want to see them, out of pure admiration and curiosity. But I no longer sin because of them. I realized that when we give our dreams to God, our desires to God, our passions to God, He gives us HIS BEST. Now I sometimes feel sad, because God may fulfill my dream when it is no longer my dream. I mean God may allow me to see Jimin when I don’t stan them anymore, or He may allow me to see Jimin while I’m still their fan, but one thing’s for sure, God will give His best if you give it all to God and that our FATHER GOD’s HEART is so good and can be trusted. ♥
      So to make it short, I think we should give it all to God. Not try to overcome it on our own strength, trying and trying but always failing. We should come to GOD as we are and let him do the changing. we should pray and cry for help because we don’t have the power to change ourselves and save ourselves. It is HIM alone who can do it. We should seek who GOD really is.. because when we see God as He is, the Good God He is, the LOVE he lavishes on us regardless of our sins, we become more and more satisfied in Him. Pray that the Lord open your eyes to who He really is. How delighting it is to be in His presence, how fulfilling His love is. BUT I ALSO WANT YOU TO KNOW BEFORE EVERYTHING ELSE, YOU ARE FORGIVEN AND RIGHTEOUS IN GOD’S EYES BECAUSE OF JESUS CHRIST. YOU HAVE TO THROW THAT CONDEMNATION AWAY AND REPEAT THIS “FACT” (because this is the truth and not what you feel) UNTIL YOUR HEART BELIEVES IT.
      REPEAT THE TRUTH THAT YOU ARE THE RIGHTEOUSNESS OF GOD IN CHRIST. HE LOVES YOU. HE FORGAVE YOU ONCE AND FOR ALL. YOUR SINS OF THE PAST AND THE FUTURE. NOTHING CAN CUT YOU OFF FROM GOD’S FAMILY. YOU ARE A CHILD OF GOD. When you realize that God isn’t mad at you. That He delights in you and cares about EVERYTHING about you, you will come to Him, just as you are. And when you see Him as He REALLY is, this is what will bring about a change of heart.

      Let’s pray:

      Father God, my sister in Christ is under the enemy’s many lies to keep her away from you rather than run to you. Let us see You in Your true goodness and your love that you lavishes upon us, so that we may be glad in all of our days. Open our eyes to see how forgiven we are and to see what You have overcome for us to give us YOUR BEST. Thank you for you everlasting love and forgiveness. Thank you Jesus. Amen.

      PS. you can send me an email thru rahselle22@gmail.com if you want someone to talk to. I would like to be friends with you my sister in Christ! ♥

    • R
      R says:

      Do you have kakao? Please do contact me and maybe we can talk about Christ and share our burdens.. ♥
      karoselle
      thats my kakao ID 🙂

    • Cutie
      Cutie says:

      Hello Myra! I am a BTS fan and I am so obssesed with them and I realky want them to see them in Heaven and so that we can add some more people to know God and I think God will be happy to see that BTS know him and I really want you guys pray for them too. I am so supportive to them and Bit by bit I am roking myself going back to Christ and I wish that BTS….to see them in heaven to be friends with them……..can you guys help me out and pray for them too? I would like it to be appreciated

      My story:
      It all started that i watched all of their MV’s I saw them on my friends phone and I watched them then I really watched already all of their videos and even made an acc and Yes my Bias is Jimin and Then a half of a Year later I felt empty and like soemone id pushing me to BTS and I really want them but I know its bad to Idolize them so I just pray for them to Know God so that I could see them in heaven too..Isn’t it good to see someone you prayed and they know God and you are do happy but I wish that works so please pray for them and work with me praying for them And I cried because I dont know what to do I really love them and I know I have to get back to Christ so I made a plan that i would just treat BTS like a Human too and Make them be a Follower of Jesus and see them in Heaven and that would be awesome and I am also working bit by bit to get far away from them and I know i reallt cant get away from them until now I watch their videos but I know that my obsession to them will also fade away If I prayed to God so I am working on it and my Plan is to make them a Follower so I hope that may work and make that plan Acconplished but I cant do it alone I want you also guys to pray for them too..And I would really appreciate that if that plan works. And we might not know they are already worshipping God!. pray for them Guys

  5. valerie
    valerie says:

    Myra, I can relate so freaking much. BTS is practically my life now. I used to have such a strong relationship with God but now, He is basically nothing to me. I know I need to follow what you’ve encouraged and turn back to Christ but secretly, I don’t want to…
    Thanks Ruth for some advice

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    • Myra
      Myra says:

      Hello, funny I find myself here again…(If you read under where I first posted, you will understand). It is still a work in progress. So far I deleted my Youtube account with BTS crack videos I made. Then I deleted my fake Instagram account. I AM ashamed to say that I have a separate one dedicated to liking BTS pictures from my actual social account. The next step is to delete my Tumblr full of fanfic smut (yes, that sadly) and my asianfanfic account where I have 2 series of Jimin fanfics. Just recently did I go through and delete every Jimin fanmade video I bookmarked as well as fanfics I saved from my browser. Next baby steps are too limit my BTS watching (this is dangerous because my day just GOES BY so easily) and slowly reduce it to zero time with BTS. I know I have a few screenshots of Jungkook saved in my phone. Mostly recent ones when they were on their way to Las Vegas for the BBMAs. I need to delete them. I need Christ back in my life. I know others can handle limiting themselves but I realized that I can’t control it. At least not know. Thank you for relating!

    • Cutie
      Cutie says:

      Well me too I am Obssesed with BTS too but my sister asked me to pray for them to Know God too so that we can also see them in Heaven so why dont we pray together and so that they may know God too so that they can change their Heart to know God and if it works that would be so much appreciatable though.

  6. Myra
    Myra says:

    Ruth, thank you for your advice. I found myself here after I decided to delete some Jimin, Taehyung and Jungkook posts. I basically had it after spending my entire Friday in front of my laptop, TIRED but unwilling to take a restful nap so that I could watch BTS videos. I even watched them play UNO. I’ve definitely gone down. I just barely read your comment and now I’m more determined to read the Word. Thank you again!

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    • Mara
      Mara says:

      Thanks a lot for sharing this with us! For the last few years, I’ve been finding myself in a very similar situation. As a person who comes from a Christian family I found myself stumbling into K-pop and spiraling down a whole different path. I must say that K-pop just like basically everything can become an addiction, more or less, one that destroys our relationship with God. Indeed, being devoted to Jesus doesn’t mean you have to completely cut off on your hobbies and such. What’s important is to keep it at a healthy dose and not let it take control over your soul and heart. I’m still struggling with many addictions (one of which is K-pop sadly) and I’ve lost count of my fails. However what I know is that as long as I keep trying, Jesus will help me overcome it. Everything is possible in the Holy One! Myra and Ruth, I want to let you know that you have nothing to feel ashamed about. You are humans, we are not perfect, we make mistakes. All is possible with the help of our God. Do not give up. Whenever you fail and take a step back, get up and take a step forward (baby steps or not). Remember, Jesus came for the broken ones. Whenever we realize our sins, ask Him for forgiveness and entrust him with them, He listens and He helps. There is no cry of help and desperation that falls deaf on His ears. I myself used to write stories on asianfanfics (currently am a huge fan of BTS since 2014). I fell into lust and I started reading a lot of fics, boyxboy amongst them. I admitted my sins to my mom as well as Jesus. I am yet to be set completely free and I still struggle day and night. Do not be discouraged and treat every failure as an even stronger motivation to fight. Read the Bible for those are His own words. Whenever you feel temptation rising in you, reach for His word and pray. Also, I’ve got a KakaoTalk so if any one you would like to talk (it’s much easier when you’ve got people in a similar around you and support each other) I’m more than willing to ^^ I hope my ‘testimony’ helped someone even if just the slightest bit. Just a reminder, do not only seek help on the internet but seek help in HIM. He will never let you down. Trust him and your sins shall be washed away by Jesus’ blood ♡

  7. K
    K says:

    Thank you so much for this article — as well as all the encouraging posts above! I’m a university student in my fourth year right now, and while I’ve never really had an affinity for Kpop, I’ve watched way too many Kdramas for my own good and for the good of my relationship with God. Literally starting a decade ago, every summer break I would spend my summer watching Kdramas, obsessively. I wouldn’t even want talk to people, let alone spend time with the Lord, because I just happy in my own bubble of watching Kdramas. But this summer has been so difficult, since I feel like this is the first summer where I feel like it’s just wrong to be watching Kdramas, and yet I keep doing it. It’s wrong because it has taken the first place in my heart — the idolization of the romance — rather than the true love of God. I’ve been struggling because I’m lukewarm, neither hot, nor cold, one foot trying to follow God, and the other foot trying to continue enjoying my addition to Korean dramas (the world). My initial response (during my past breaks) is to just go cold turkey, but I’ve seen during the last 2 years the futility of self-imposed limits. I seem to break them every time. I verbally repent every day to the Lord, and I ask for His help to turn away, for true repentance. I try to spend time in the Word, and yet at the end of the day, I feel like I don’t have the strength to resist just indulging in Korean dramas. They’re not necessarily bad, but I feel sad/depressed knowing that the pleasures of Korean dramas have replaced my devotion to God in my heart and mind!
    I belong to a church community that is so devoted to God, but I feel like I can’t talk to anyone about this because (1) they would laugh, because no one else watches tv/movies/entertainment in my church community (it’s quite small, really) (2) I don’t think anyone else in my church struggles with this kind of thing. They’re really devout, always worshipping, sharing the Gospel, reading the Word, etc., and I want to leave because I feel like I can’t put on a facade anyone — I am broken within and without, and I need a savior. I don’t want to have this need to watch korean dramas, but that ultimately my only need and my love would be Christ.
    But I am not hopeless. I believe that one day, God will help me break free from my unhealthy appetite for kdramas. Just need to keep seeking Him, and asking for His grace to turn my eyes and my heart and my mind toward Him!

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  8. J254
    J254 says:

    Thanks so much for sharing this. I have also been obsessing over KPOP and Kdrama. I live in Kenya and believe it or not, the Hallyu Wave can be felt all the way here. I have especially taken a liking to BTS and EXO.
    At first, I told myself I didn’t understand what they said so it couldn’t do any harm. Watching the pretty faces and the amazing dance moves was just a harmless way of entertaining myself. But the time I spend each day watching the same faces is steadily growing.
    K, it would be great if you could find someone in your community to share this with. Ask God to lead you . You could find someone in your small community who has been going through the same situation then you could help keep each other accountable. James 5:16. All the best.

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  9. Victoria
    Victoria says:

    I can relate to this article and I’m glad I found it. This is a question I’ve been asking myself and I thank GOD I found the answer

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  10. Myra
    Myra says:

    Mara,
    Thank you so much for your kind words! I seriously can’t thank you enough. I definitely tried the healthy dose and failed miserably countless times. So I ended up doing a fast. So far I have deleted my secret Instagram account with endless likes of BTS, deleted my Asianfanfic account (also deleted my authored smut stories), deleted any pictures I saved of BTS and banned myself from Kpop updates. I’ve decided this to focus on myself and God and those around me. I am not bitter with Kpop, in fact I still love it. I heard they released a new song. Well, actually I saw a thumbnail on Youtube labeled “BTS- Come Back Home” or something and I didn’t let myself watch the video. I knew that if I clicked, I would be miserably sucked. HOWEVER, I can still enjoy other Kpop music without going overboard or idolizing anyone. For example, I watched Blackpink’s “As If It’s Your Last” and replayed because it was my jam! It was a guilt-free time of enjoying Kpop without any lust or idolization. I watched the girls on Weekly Idol without any empty feelings too!

    All is going well and I plan to keep it that way. I find myself helping my mom more. I also am taking care of my health and mind more!

    So glad I made this decision!

    Thank you again!

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    • Cutie
      Cutie says:

      Is it really okay to balance God and Kpop? I am really confused I still watch BTS since I like them but I’m not Idolizing them too much But Im a fan of them and I pray for them to know God….Is that okay to eatch their videos and just to be a Fan but not Idolizing them?.

  11. Just Another Sinner
    Just Another Sinner says:

    Hi, first off I would like to thank you so much for your testimony on this topic. Actually, I didn’t randomly stumble across this, but was purposefully searching for this. I was born into a Christian family; my parents were strict in keeping your faith strong. I always thought I was in a decent place with Christ, and knew where to find Him if I ever went astray. But like you did before, I unknowingly grew this huge addiction to a k-pop band, BTS. Now, as I’m writing this, I’m still very, deeply trapped in this addiction of mine. I’m very much aware of how much time I waste for them, also how much I lust and sin. I feel it inside my heart, I know it too well, but I just can’t seem to detach myself. I pray and pray, asking God for help, yet I can’t even seem to reach for my bible. When Sundays come along and I join my Sunday School class, I feel ashamed to be there, to be answering discussion questions like I know it all, to be supporting my younger youth members knowing that once I’m out of there, I’ll be back to my BTS world. The more I like them, the more empty I feel inside my chest. When I thought I was a well devoted Christian, I become surprised by how fast I’m able to throw it all away for k-pop. I feel as if God is disappointed in me and how easily I can get swayed by such insignificant things. I would like to ask anyone who is reading this, please pray for me. Please pray that I will grow hungry for The Word of God and come back to Him. In a way, it seems funny that such a silly thing can get me so far away from God, but it’s hurting me. So please, my fellow brothers and sisters in Christ, pray for me, and I will also pray for you all who have a similar situation. Thank you so much.

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    • Pauline
      Pauline says:

      Hey Just Another Sinner! (If you dont wanna read my testimony its ok, some advice down at the second paragraph) I’ve been in the same boat as you for so long but now I have found true joy on the Lord and not in human idols. My idea of beauty had definitely been skewed by Kpop.Im a Taiwanese-American but I held asian beauty standards as a rule book since Im also asian. The beauty standards in Kpop is something that never did sit well with me although I followed it. I became obsessed with making my skin paler, wishing I had a skinnier nose, and thinking my legs are too fat (which was totally STUPID). This was mainly brought on by girl groups. My history with guy groups is that fandoms sexualize them like crazy through fanfics whether it be boyxboy or readerxbias. Even things like scenario blogs. i.e.. how would BTS react if…or if you were your bias’ girlfriend. I began to realize that people really did hold these idols as IDOLS and I did too. Assuming their personalities, ideal types, and love life I realize is just so wrong but I still found myself reading Kpop blogs. I went to a short-term mission trip to Nepal this summer which I am so blessed to have gone on, but when I got back I went straight to Kpop. OH MY! I hated myself so much for doing that. How could I come back from an amazing trip of doing God’s work in a 3rd world country and then resume my life back to normal? Like WAY TO GO! You just took a life changing mission trip and doing NOTHING with it.
      So Kpop became an idol and I wanted and needed to make God the only one in my life. 1) Go talk and tell a fellow brother or sister in Christ (for me a sister because imma girl) that you are struggling with Kpop and you truly want to stop it. Accountability is SO important as a Christian. I have found a accountability/discipler partner but I do talk outside of her too. I told my sisters in Christ that kpop has messed up my perception of beauty and that everything Kpop needs to slow down and stop. Your sister in Christ I hope in your case will support you like how it should be. 2) My accountability sister actually kickstarted me to read the Bible which is uber importante. She started me on Genesis and it took me 3 months to read 50 chapters BLESS and now I’m on Exodus. I thought I would lose motivation to read the Bible if I didn’t have my sister in Christ but I realized I do have a hunger for His word. This was through fervent prayer to the Lord and spending time with Him everyday. Its ok if you dont read the whole Bible in a year, go at your own pace, and also it is good to ask a more mature christian for some passages that can help you in your situation. 3) Pray!! So going back to my struggle of when I came back to Nepal but consuming my life with Kpop. I prayed to God to help me and God has answered my prayers! I finally had a time of reflection of my STM which motivated me to get out of Kpop and do God’s will. I want to make the point that this is a different situation than yours and that a STM trip will NOT fix your problems. But in a way God used my STM experience to get out of Kpop. He has also answered my same prayer but in another way (its a longer story though). I still struggle with Kpop but it has truly gotten better. So even of this sounds cliche (numbered not by importance)
      1) Accountability brother or sister in Christ 2) Reading the Bible 3) Pray
      Its also a good idea to step from trendy cool secular music and listen to some good ol’ hymns. jk but listen to some Christian music. My radio is always tuned to KLOVE (Christian radio even though they overplay some songs) and having a playlist on youtube of Christian music (Bethel,Hillsong, Phil Wickham…) and have some worship time at home or in the car. Liking Kpop is ok. Its good to have interests but remember it is part of Earth. 1 John 2;15-17 is quite well known but it always reminds me, it says 15 Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, love for the Father is not in them. 16 For everything in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—comes not from the Father but from the world. 17 The world and its desires pass away, but whoever does the will of God lives forever. I will definitely pray for you and all of you guys in the comment section. Being a Chrisitan + Kpop fan is so interesting I would love to continue this topic with you!

    • R
      R says:

      Hello, just another sinner! First of all I would like to apologize in advance for my poor grammar since english is not my primary language. So, you know I am very much like everyone who commented here. I spent so much time watching their videos, listening to their songs, tweeting about them, I could even go a day without taking a bath and just watching them. Until one day I attended their concert but since I’m poor, I can only afford an Upperbox ticket and so I wasn’t able to see Jimin clearly. I was left so heartbroken that day and I came up with a plan.. to save money and attend any fanmeet, music show or fansign in korea to see Jimin up close. But since I’m poor, when I got a huge amount of money from my work, I hesitated. I really want to see Jimin, but in my early Christian days, when I am still so in love with the Lord, I don’t save. I never save money. God will always reveal to me to give it away. And so when I receive my pay for my work, I really hesitated to save it for Jimin. I mean, I could help my poor family a lot with it. so i decided to just give it away to my family for our needs rather than save it for Jimin. I decided to give my dream (an earthly one yes, to see an artist. but you know, as I pray and seek God I have realized that God doesn’t despise earthly desires. BUT WE HAVE TO DELIGHT IN HIM. Delight in doing the will of God and let Him be the one to give it to us.) when I gave it to God I realized that I prayed more and more to Him since He’s the only One able to give my dream to me. But as I do so, God also used this dream of mine to make me closer to Him again. I cannot go on a day without His word or presence. I feel more desire towards praying to God and reading his word than spazzing about BTS. Now, although I still pray to God about wanting to see JIMIN in person, I had a change of heart in a sense that I realized that it is more satisfying to see GOD rather than him fulfilling this dream of mine. I dont know how to say it but I think my dream became of God. I can now go a day without watching them and listening to their music or spazzing about them. I no longer lust after them. I still want to see them, out of pure admiration and curiosity. But I no longer sin because of them. I realized that when we give our dreams to God, our desires to God, our passions to God, He gives us HIS BEST. Now I sometimes feel sad, because God may fulfill my dream when it is no longer my dream. I mean God may allow me to see Jimin when I don’t stan them anymore, or He may allow me to see Jimin while I’m still their fan, but one thing’s for sure, God will give His best if you give it all to God and that our FATHER GOD’s HEART is so good and can be trusted. ♥
      So to make it short, I think we should give it all to God. Not try to overcome it on our own strength, trying and trying but always failing. We should come to GOD as we are and let him do the changing. we should pray and cry for help because we don’t have the power to change ourselves and save ourselves. It is HIM alone who can do it. We should seek who GOD really is.. because when we see God as He is, the Good God He is, the LOVE he lavishes on us regardless of our sins, we become more and more satisfied in Him. Pray that the Lord open your eyes to who He really is. How delighting it is to be in His presence, how fulfilling His love is. BUT I ALSO WANT YOU TO KNOW BEFORE EVERYTHING ELSE, YOU ARE FORGIVEN AND RIGHTEOUS IN GOD’S EYES BECAUSE OF JESUS CHRIST. YOU HAVE TO THROW THAT CONDEMNATION AWAY AND REPEAT THIS “FACT” (because this is the truth and not what you feel) UNTIL YOUR HEART BELIEVES IT.
      REPEAT THE TRUTH THAT YOU ARE THE RIGHTEOUSNESS OF GOD IN CHRIST. HE LOVES YOU. HE FORGAVE YOU ONCE AND FOR ALL. YOUR SINS OF THE PAST AND THE FUTURE. NOTHING CAN CUT YOU OFF FROM GOD’S FAMILY. YOU ARE A CHILD OF GOD. When you realize that God isn’t mad at you. That He delights in you and cares about EVERYTHING about you, you will come to Him, just as you are. And when you see Him as He REALLY is, this is what will bring about a change of heart.

      Let’s pray:

      Father God, my sister in Christ is under the enemy’s many lies to keep her away from you rather than run to you. Let us see You in Your true goodness and your love that you lavishes upon us, so that we may be glad in all of our days. Open our eyes to see how forgiven we are and to see what You have overcome for us to give us YOUR BEST. Thank you for you everlasting love and forgiveness. Thank you Jesus. Amen.

      PS. you can send me an email thru rahselle22@gmail.com if you want someone to talk to. I would like to be friends with you my sister in Christ! ♥

    • Carrie
      Carrie says:

      I feel the exact same way. I starting liking BTS two months ago and I feel this guilt for watching their videos and listening to their music all the time, instead of praying or doing homework. I hope I can overcome this addiction and just enjoy their music on a simple level…

  12. Lyricalia
    Lyricalia says:

    Hi, I am 13 years old, and I am a hardcore EXO-L. I am also a Christian. So I wanted to know what the real words of Wolf (by EXO) really meant. So I watched a English sub. I loved the song, but I still cringed because the words were, kinda sexual.. Well, last night my mom was talking about all of her old-school boybands she was into when she was a teenager, so I showed her Wolf by EXO. (Just the music video, not the sub) Then later she asked me, “Do you know what they are saying?”, I just cringed and said, “Kinda?” Then she googled them herself, and she got very upset with me. She said that the song sings about sin. I understand that, I just don’t understand why I was so comfortable with it. Now later today, she said she will share it with my dad. Now the more embarrassment will roll in. I am so afraid that they will band me from listening to EXO. I really really like EXO, and I listen to them daily. I’ve set a border, where they will never take God’s place because, Like you said, they are only human. I just don’t want to have to give them up. I fangirl over them so hard. I really need help. I’m not sure what I’m supposed to tell my dad tonight. Advice pls? I really need it. I heard rumors that most of the band members are Christian (That includes Baekhyun, my bias). But they are also adults now, so I thought it wasn’t that bad if they sang about sex. But then again, they aren’t married, so therefore that is a sin. I mean come on, they ARE a group of boys and boys only. I’m not so surprised. But then the thought came in my head, that they aren’t talking about A girl. Technically, they are not singing from experience, and they are not singing to a specific girl. That made me feel a little better, but I’m still so ashamed, because my mom always thought I had really good judgement on things that were wrong to listen to, and right. I also watch a Youtuber, name TerryTv. He’s awesome. He cusses a lot and sometimes he’ll make dirty jokes. But I still watch him anyway, because he makes me laugh. I told my mom that he cusses a lot, and now, she wants to take my phone away, because she doesn’t think she can trust me on the internet now. I’m so ashamed. I can’t believe how low I look. I really need help, so please give me some advice, ASAP!!!

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    • Yvonne
      Yvonne says:

      Hello, Lyricalia. My name is Yvonne and I used to be obsessed with Kpop and Youtube videos that had curse words/dirty language/horror/etc (even beauty vlogs and anything). I was obsessed about EXO, too––to the point where I wrote fanfiction and stories about them. I would watch EXO music videos, listen to EXO songs, play EXO songs on piano, have EXO photos on my phone, and scour anything EXO or Kpop related. I also read manga, anime, and watched TV shows (like K-dramas) for hours straight.

      It had gotten to the point where I believed nothing could get me out of my addiction. I was in too deep in the Korean entertainment world that I didn’t know how to break out of it, and it was one of the reasons that I decided to abandon God because I was guilty of idolatry, lust, perversion, laziness, etc.

      I kept reading testimonies about Hell and inside my heart I would be screaming, “Please! I need help! I don’t know how to go to Heaven. Yes, I know it’s about Jesus but how do I break out of my habits?”

      God brought me back to His family recently in September 2017. I stopped what I was doing (by God’s strength) because I knew with God it was all or nothing. That was one of the main reasons why I stopped praying and sinned everyday. I know He doesn’t want us to be in the middle–-we are either hot or cold for Him.

      My prayer was this, “God, I want to change. I don’t know how but I’ll trust you.” And when I gave my life to the Lord, Jesus Christ, I left it all behind.

      There was a strong temptation today to the point where I wanted to return to my old lifestyle of kdramas, Kpop, fanfiction, etc. I found this testimony and I wanted to encourage you, my friend, because I spent hours watching every sort of video out there on Korea, Japan, etc. I spent my time daydreaming about boyfriends, but be encouraged, my dear! It is not impossible to break our habits. Only Jesus can do it! I thought I had to clean myself up before I became a “Christian” Christian, but it is Jesus who cleans us up.

      There is a man on YouTube called “Todd White.” He has a movie called “Lifestyle Christianity” and I’d really love for you to watch it! Also, “The Last Reformation” on YouTube has a good movie/documentary on what the power of God can do. My email is yvonnecarandang@gmail.com!

  13. Francis
    Francis says:

    God is good
    My sister She’s addicted in k. Pop and any group of kpop like bts and others etc etc…i can’t how to away from kpop group all of time has gone because that kpop help me

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  14. Kissysushi
    Kissysushi says:

    Yes! you can be Christian kpop fan. God says to love everyone because everyone is a sinner and not perfect. If you worship the kpop artist more than God then that might be a problem. In the Bible, it says you can’t have another God(s) other than Him or worship other things.
    I think it’s wonderful that you’re to make sure you wouldn’t fall from your faith in Christ.<3
    I just found out one of my favorite artists is non-religious and one is an atheist. My heart is broken but I still love them no matter what because God said to love. All I can do is love them from afar and pray that they will come to know the Lord because 2.1M of the world is Christians.
    Sorry for the error because English is my second language 🙂

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  15. Jeslyn
    Jeslyn says:

    Thank you so much for this! I, like everyone here is very much a avid multifandom kpop fan and was very encouraged by the support of people & how real everyone is in facing the problem that i personally thought only i had. Since i was a born-christian, i knew the moment it was wrong to idolise people of the earth. So when i got into kpop, i kept telling myself its for dance & music on its own since i’ve always loved dancing. However, with no doubt, i got trapped into it. Did everything you all mentioned here, escaping the fact that i was indeed obsessed. Even my non-believer friend couldnt believe how crazy i went when i talked about the idols in our conversations. I definitely felt like i wasnt portraying a God-like image to her and i was so ashamed of it. Ashamed till the point where i never admitted (even till this day) to my church friends, not even at the altar call, that i was trapped into the kpop world and that i was so wrong, and that i could shamelessly proclaim my love for these idols infront of my church friends because of how close we are. I personally have a sister whom i respect alot because of how fervent she is as a believer even with the things she went through. She went through all 17 years with me and saw me grow. Saw my falls and always tried to help & understand me. Im thankful because she saw that i was addicted to Kpop, and being a strict sister she always has been, i was more surprised at how she never once scolded me for loving kpop too much but instead, used it to help me serve God. Since teens nowadays love kpop as well, it also became a way i could connect with my youths & with God’s grace, i was given a opportunity to start a kpop dance interest group where i can interact with people, get to know them through the same interest & one day, lead them to God. I just started it a month ago, and im so glad God gave me a way to serve him, despite me running away from him.

    Coming back to these testimonies i just read here, i will try to put everything into action & serve God through my interests. Im even more excited to go through this knowing its possible & i am so glad for a community that i can also pray for here with similar problems 🙂
    Amen to everything i read! 🙂

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  16. Franny
    Franny says:

    Hi! I’m so glad I found this thread because I’ve been struggling recently with it too :(. I too am a Christian who accepted Christ in my early teen years. During high school it wasn’t that bad, I’d listen Super Junior, Bigbang, SNSD, Wonder Girls, SHINee, etc and I enjoyed their music neutrally. Even right now as a young adult, I continue to listen to it but only to some moderation. It was during the release of the show called Produce 101 Season 2 where I sort of got hooked again. I had a hiatus with k-pop for about 4 years but I suddenly drifted fast and hard. 🙁

    I can’t help myself but to constantly check on Wanna One in social media (Instagram, Twitter) and like every post. I know I’d get all smiley, giddy and ecstatic everytime I watch them but it’s so obvious that this kind of happiness I get from k-pop groups won’t last.. I know deep in my heart, the more I spend time watching on their variety shows, downloading videos, photos and what not, I am placing them in my heart before God.. 🙁 Sometimes I even prioritize practicing their choreography and songs instead of doing other responsibilities. And from there on with my obsession of Wanna One, I drifted to BTS because one of the members mentioned them as a model.

    Now here comes my unique and immense appreciation for BTS. I admire and respect them as a group for their individuality and music. I love their lyrics, I love their video and photo concepts. I believe they are a one of a kind k-pop group ever since their Forever Young album, they have created more meaningful music. But here’s a thing, none of them are Christians and Namjoon identifies himself as an atheist (this can be apparent becasuse of his high IQ). Because I googled them too much, I end up seeing unnecessary topics. Because right now I can’t help but be a shipper and stan of these pairings and everytime I see posts of fans objectifying them (e.g. their abs, Jimin’s jibooty, Jungkook’s thighs, Taehyung’s tongue etc), I am conforming with the world instead of avoiding such.. Gradually I ended up shipping a lot of pairs and I am well aware this is far worse already because of the sexual jokes on the pairings and what not. From idolatry it then drifted down on sexual impurity.. And what’s worse is my biases have a lot of these posts (especially on the maknae line)..

    I agree so much and relate to what Lee Soo Yi wrote “Initially, I tried to go cold turkey on everything that had the slightest association to K-Pop. I treated it as though it were a heinous sin. However, doing so only brought me great anguish and despair.” To be honest that’s what I’m feeling right now. It’s as if I can’t let go if it when I’m very aware that it’s not pleasing God but at the same time I feel hurt.

    This struggle of mine really makes me cry because you can never serve God and another on the same pedestal. But I believe in God’s power, that one day and by His grace and wisdom I can overcome this struggle.

    God bless everyone! To all struggling with the same, pray for breakthroughs with God. He can use this as an area in your life to bless others instead. hehe

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    • Yvonne
      Yvonne says:

      Hello, Franny. My name is Yvonne and I used to be obsessed with Kpop. I was obsessed about EXO, BTS, SHINee, etc. too––to the point where I wrote fanfiction and stories about them and devoured every sort of romantic story. I would watch their music videos, listen to their songs, play their songs on piano, have their photos on my phone, and scour anything Kpop/Korea/Korean related. I also read manga, anime, and watched TV shows (like K-dramas) for hours straight.

      It had gotten to the point where I believed nothing could get me out of my addiction. I was in too deep in the Korean entertainment world that I didn’t know how to break out of it, and it was one of the reasons that I decided to abandon God because I was guilty of idolatry, lust, perversion, laziness, etc.

      I kept reading testimonies about Hell and inside my heart I would be screaming, “Please! I need help! I don’t know how to go to Heaven. Yes, I know it’s about Jesus but how do I break out of my habits?”

      God brought me back to His family recently in September 2017. I stopped what I was doing (by God’s strength) because I knew with God it was all or nothing. That was one of the main reasons why I stopped praying and sinned everyday. I know He doesn’t want us to be in the middle–-we are either hot or cold for Him.

      My prayer was this, “God, I want to change. I don’t know how but I’ll trust you.” And when I gave my life to the Lord, Jesus Christ, I left it all behind.

      There was a strong temptation today to the point where I wanted to return to my old lifestyle of kdramas, Kpop, fanfiction, etc. I found this testimony and I wanted to encourage you, my friend, because I spent hours watching every sort of video out there on Korea, Japan, etc. I spent my time daydreaming about boyfriends, but be encouraged, my dear! It is not impossible to break our habits. Only Jesus can do it! I thought I had to clean myself up before I became a “Christian” Christian, but it is Jesus who cleans us up.

      There is a man on YouTube called “Todd White.” He has a movie called “Lifestyle Christianity” and I’d really love for you to watch it! Also, “The Last Reformation” on YouTube has a good movie/documentary on what the power of God can do. My email is yvonnecarandang@gmail.com!

      I know what you mean. I had a hiatus with Kpop fanfiction too, but you can only go cold turkey on bad habits when you finally understand that it is Jesus who helps you go cold turkey. I thought I could do it by my own strength, but rely on the strength of the Lord, my friend! I was addicted to secular music and sexual posts, but my dear it is possible. There is hope.

      You can pray to God this right now and He will hear your sincerity.

      “God, I don’t know how to break out of my Kpop/entertainment addiction but I want to. I know, God, you said we either serve you or the Devil and what I’m doing is not pleasing to you. But is anything too hard for you? You can sever my desire for this just as you can turn an alcoholic sober, and a heroin addict into a God-fearing man. Papa, please hear my cry! Jesus, have it Your Way and not my own! Amen.”

  17. Ellisa
    Ellisa says:

    I’m glad I found this post.. I was really searching about this topic. I remembered way back in 2009 when I start obsessing with KPOP groups like SNSD, SHINee, SJ, KARA, Infinite, & EXO. But God made me realize that I was so wrong all along. I found myself dedicating most of my time to KPOP. Like listening to all their music, watching all their shows, watching fanmade/collected videos, collecting all pictures whether official or fantaken, buying albums & photobooks, checking out their fashion, researching very detailed data of every member of the group, searching for the latest news of them, their schedule, participating in every forum, and even to the point of celebrating their birthdays by my own. God found me and made me realize I was so lost and I’m so guilty like I devoted my life to them. Thank God He lightened up my world. I abandoned Kpop like deleting all kpop photos & videos & some music in my laptop. After years, I found myself again into Kpop (BTS, Red Velvet) but with control of myself compared before. I don’t save tons of photos & videos anymore. I was like listening to the music was enough and watching some videos. But then came a time where I was so depressed and it’s like Kpop invaded my life again to the point I sleep every night around 1pm just because of searching kpop (iKON, Black Pink..). God told me again that I must wake up and leave this kind of life! Right now, I deleted most of kpop songs in my phone that seem evil and learned to stop watching KPOP videos that promote homosexuality (like OTPs & crossdressing) and with dark theme. I am also devoting my time in other things like drawing, design, my pets, and other stuff. I read the bible everyday and think of God everyday and how to prepare my way to Heaven with Jesus Christ. The Holy Spirit is very strong I can feel whenever I am about to sin. Please pray for me guys!

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  18. genesis
    genesis says:

    Hi guys, I been struggling too. Thank God i find this thread. I almost relate in every confession and messages here. I came from a Christian family, active in the ministry. I known k-pop since 2008 or 2009 way back in 2nd year high school. I stan 2nd generation groups (superjunior,shinee,bigbang, 2ne1,f(x),snsd,tvxq,ukiss,2pm, etc) super junior the most. back then, we have no wifi, I can occasionally watched kpop in some of our cable channel, or go to the computer shops, to watched their MV and my bias in SJ is ryeowook. The thing is im Not too obsessed in the past I dont memorized all sj members and i dont watched their variety shows, just their MV and some of their famous songs. after I graduate(2011) im in hiatus for k-pop, I may know some songs but k-pop is not my thing when i entered college.

    But this November 2017, I came back to K-pop, and I just realized i became addicted. Its all because of Super Junior comeback. It is seems i have missed them for 6yrs and im not updated to everything regarding the members lives, their songs, etc. so I searched everything about them to get back to that fandom feels. I got hooked. From Nov – Dec I watched everything from MVs, Crack vids, Variety shows, i searched infos, download their songs, I became very active at youtube, twitter and instagram just to know them more and have daily updates. I never imagine myself being so fan girl, but now Im a huge fan girl. Also i find myself sleeping late because of binge watching their variety shows and etc. I dream about them everyday, day dream about them and imagining things(but i dont go overboard). I was so hype by their comeback and even thinking attending their concerts or buying their merch, so I saved my christmas pay. (but, I only bought their lightstick which cost me P2000plus) and for the record I never bought something that expensive, so I hide it from my parents.

    Then in my Christmas vacation, I feel so down and depressed, I don’t feel pretty, i was being grumpy, eager to save money, I want to work in S.K, because i want to see them badly, I feel different,not me. Then I realized I lost interest with my relationship to God. I got so much time tweeting, following their lives in social media yet less time to talk and spend time to God. I felt like it wasn’t me anymore, though I was still involved in church ministry, but my heart is out of it. I tried talking to my Christian friends about my depression but I forgot to mention about my kpop obsession, they may not understand that. I dont know what to do, it feels like super junior is my stress reliever, there are times I cant go on a day without watching their videos.
    I really like them, I even pray all of them to be save and someday I can see them face to face, but also I don’t want them to distract my relationship with God. 🙁

    Please pray for me.. 🙁

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    • Franny
      Franny says:

      Hi Genesis! Will uplift you in prayer and I totally relate especially with the part of you being depressed about it because I’ve been there too (fellow Filipino here BTW hehe). My name is Franny BTW and you can contact me here frannybeng@gmail.com. You’re not alone, but we thank God for His power is at work in us and for a head start, don’t lose hope!

      Keep praying and trusting and find an accountability partner who can pray with this for you. Tbh, coming from a Christian family, it was always hard for me to open up to them and explain my spiritual struggles especially when it came to addiction. I shared this addiction of mine first to our Victory Group leader and she related because she too was once a victim of being addicted by Hallyu influence.

      I was so glad with her constant watching over my “k-popness”, I am gradually able to overcome little by little with it. Like what you do, I also pray for these groups especially for their salvation. What’s nice with Suju is they have one member who’s proud of his faith and is presently a missionary – Choi Siwon. I am also praying that God will use him mightily in the idol industry as he would get to share the Gospel.

      Here’s my prayer for you: “Father, we thank you that even before our backsliding will recur, you still love us and see beyond our sins. Lord, I wanna lift up to you this K-pop addiction of mine and lay it down on your feet for good. I pray Father that you cancel as well the works of the enemy trying to distract me through K-pop and help me instead look at them through Your lens.

      Lord nothing is impossible with you and we declare that one day we will get to overcome such addiction because greater are You than this world. This we ask in Christ’s most powerful name, Amen! “

  19. Tania
    Tania says:

    What a great article, very beneficial! Romans 8:28 “He works all things out for our good”, I praise Him for doing that with your situation!

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  20. Mei-Lianny Rios
    Mei-Lianny Rios says:

    Hi i need help because my mom thinks that bts isnt good for me . but bts is only a hobby for me like listening and reading about them

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    • blue
      blue says:

      Hi well i have that kind of problem too.

      I think its okay to like something, but not to the point were it leads us far from God. Im a stan of Super Junior and I been there. My daily reality is hard and I kept on clinging to SJ for that sense of relief and happiness. But now though im still a fan, I manage to put that aside. Making God as my comforter would be the best.

      its okay to be a fan as long as you dont treat them as God. also check if they are still worth stanning for, like their acts, songs and etc. that might become a treat with your relationship with God.

  21. Franny
    Franny says:

    Hi ladies, I’m Franny! I’m sure some here have read my previous comment and even replies to other comments. I ended up finding this thread just last year when I was into deep in my addiction and as for now I would just like to share my testimony because I’ve been reading the comments lately and would like to continue to at least make this as a “support group” in a way that one day and in Jesus’ name, we will get to lay down this addiction of ours and look at K-pop through the lens of Christ, that is; when I look at this through God’s lens, it is strong impression on me how I should continue to pray for not the K-pop groups only but for peace between S. Korea and N. Korea and for the two countries as a whole 🙂

    One thing I did notice is that, this thread and the comments ARE NOT A MEANS to justify we continue on entertaining this sins of ours. While it is nice to know that you are not alone in struggling with your kpop addiction and other ladies here empathize with what you’ve done and what you’ve been through, please don’t forget that the ultimate One who can truly save us from this addiction is Christ. I hope and pray that as you read the other comments, it won’t mislead you to falsehood but instead will lead you to God’s truth- His Word, the Bible; NOT the person who replied to your comment, NOT any spiritual book or video/documentary (I’m not saying this is bad but there’s nothing better than first-hand reading of the Bible) and NOT even ourselves.

    What exactly are the sins being promoted by K-pop if you’re gradually hooked with it? (This is the case for those who are really addicted guys, I don’t mean to include as well the neutral listeners or mere appreciators of K-pop music) Well firstly: idolatry. Idolatry does not necessarily pertain to the false gods or even the statues people worship; idolatry entails ANYTHING that takes up too much of your time that distracts you from spending time with God. From the word itself and even how they are called idols. What’s sad is non-Christian fans treat their idols to the point in calling them god and that’s just shocking. There are so many biblical passages about idolatry (Zec. 10:12, Ezra 36:25; 44:10, 1 Jn. 15:2 etc) and while I delved on verses and chapters about idolatry I was enlightened with God’s truth no matter how painful the truth was. I used to download so many photos of my biases and wreckers and I would stare at them for minutes; I constantly updated myself about them in every social media; used to binge-watch on Youtube or V-live and live like trash. Sometimes it also came to the point that was the only thing I talked about with my friends and it affected my social health.

    Second, it promotes impurity, sexual immorality and sensuality. You all know what I’m talking about guys, I don’t have to write the details here. Well it can’t be helped because K-pop comes from the world and not from God. More or less this is evidently seen in some of their lyrics, choreographies and even the way they dress. Yes, they are good looking but they say second glances is adultery of the heart. Remember Matthew 5:28? The verse does not necessarily apply to married couples, it is also for singles. So the more you feed your eyes of these images, videos and what not, the more you feed the flesh and as Christians, we do not live by the flesh but by the Spirit (Gal. 5:19-26). Again I’m not trying to generalize here, there are good k-pop songs and there are bad k-pop songs; my point is that we should be able to discern and accept what is pleasing to God and not our own.

    Thirdly, it distorts our view of love. It saddens me that a lot of ladies are deeply and madly in love with k-pop idols who don’t know they even exist to the point that they freak out and lay down their lives for them (Typical fangirl hysteria, yes, I’m sure you know what I’m talking about). How can God lead us to the right man when we are too preoccupied looking at another who can’t really be with us in the first place? God is the Author of our lives and that includes our love life. Call me cheesy, but hey, God wants us to also have the best love life because we are His children :). I’m sure some of us invested a lot of emotions into K-pop idols that we end up getting hurt because we already know deep down God will not give them to us as our boyfriends/spouses because He has someone better for us and what’s nice about this, He prepares us a man who will lead us to God no matter what the season.

    Lastly, it distracts us from honoring God and honoring our parents. If you are a student like me (well I’m a graduate school student so I’m not really young haha) and you have been investing too much time, money, effort and emotions and k-pop.. you not only stop honoring God by doing such but even your parents. Your parents send you to school because they want you to finish and get a job; they don’t send you to school and you end up using your allowance for merchandise, concerts or what not. Again, I’m not saying that it’s bad to go to concerts or buy merchandise but at the end of the day it all boils down to priorities. Why not be inspired to finish school at once so you can have a job, earn for that merchandise or ticket concert you so badly wanted. That’s even better because you used your own money, not your parents’.

    In addition, aside from what the author wrote on her article, let us make it a habit to have an accountability partner. At least one or even more who knows this addiction of yours. As I mentioned in one of my replies, I started opening this up to our bible study leader and as much as guilt-stricken and shame-caught I am during the times she would correct me on it, I feel blessed and happy because at least someone checks it up on me, not just one, twice BUT CONSTANTLY or whenever they see me being too crazed on K-pop again. I also shared this to my family, so my parents and brother also check me from time to time asking “How’s school? How’s your walk with God? I hope K-pop hasn’t been stealing too much of your time with God. :)”; something like that.

    And lastly, dear ladies, let us make 1 Corinthians 10:23 as our guiding verse for this struggle and allow me to rephrase it like this: We are entitled to our own prerogratives (in listening to k-pop, being a k-pop fan, etc) but not all of our prerogratives would be honoring to God. Like what other ladies have posted here, it’s okay to be a fan but when you’re at the point that K-pop is consuming you in every area of your life, even spiritually, then run back to God. Run back to His Word. He will always be there with arms wide open :). We are all God’s work in progress after all and I am excited that He will get to use You mightily through your breakthroughs and testimonies!!

    P.S.

    If you want to email me regarding this comment of mine (please no hate lol) or if you want to share more biblical views as we grown in Christ, you can reach me at frannybeng@gmail.com. God bless y’all and Shalom! 🙂

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  22. WW18
    WW18 says:

    This almost made me cry, I’m so glad I’m not the only one who felt this way. I am addicted to BTS, i have dreamt my crazy fan dreaming of meeting them in many ways, even using God’s Plan as an excuse..
    Now, I was so crazy with them to the point I placed God under, but he reminded me. I was about to use the money given by my grandma to buy an album but God told me then, I have always planned to give offering for Christmas in my Church, but last time I wanted to buy an album, so he told me, “Where am I in this?”
    I was so shocked, really, and I couldn’t fight back, so I gave the money to the church with all my heart, realizing I’ve been putting God under. I start to realize I’ve been talking about BTS all the time, lessening my praying times, yet still praying for them, that is why i start to lessen my obsession, I start praying more, I started to put God on top again, and I start to let go of BTS. There was a time I wanted to go to BTS’ concert so much, and I was so stubborn to go on my own with my friend, but we were too young. My parents didn’t allow but they wanted me to be happy. They said that they’d pray to God about it. I realized God was telling me no, but I didn’t want to listen. I didn’t go at the end, I realized, I’ve been putting God so far away.. I’m so glad I got over the obsession, I still like them, I won’t lie, but i will start to lessen it more and more! Thank you for everybody here for sharing their stories! God bless you!

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  23. Robyn
    Robyn says:

    I’m sure I’m several years older than all of you, but let me give you some encouragement: We’re all susceptible to idolizing. That’s why it’s the first commandment that we give our entire self to God because otherwise, we’ll worship elsewhere. I’ve idolized people my entire life, going from one amazing person to another. You all know what I mean if you’ve been a fan of anything. Reading the Word is the only way I can set my mind free. I will always have the tendency to idolize people. I know it’s not ever going to be easy to avoid. But Christ has claimed me as his, and he keeps setting me free. Some practical tips: Find your Bible and sit down with paper and pencil. Study. Don’t use a Bible app because notifications will distract you and the light can be over stimulating. Find some new Christian friends IRL who aren’t fangirls and work on making those relationships deeper and stronger. Stop online relationships with KPop fans. Close your social media accounts where you’re devoting all your time to your idols. Try to have more variety in your life, some hobbies not related to Korea! You’ll be free from your idolizing before you even miss it, I promise. Within a couple of days, you’ll wonder why you were so crazy.

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  24. Ally
    Ally says:

    Hey everyone,
    I know I’m late, but I feel compelled to write this.
    I purposefully searched for a post of this type because lately, I’ve been questioning my relationship to kpop and more specifically, BTS. I’ve been an ARMY for about a year now, and have gone through a similar phase with anime in the past. I watch a lot of youtube videos and listen to their music while doing homework, but have never been so obsessive as to write fanfic or rewatch things over and over. For a while, I had stopped listening to their music, but with their Love Yourself comeback, I found myself spending a lot of time online watching videos (crackvids, compilations, interviews). I’ve always been very aware of how I need to hold myself back, or else I’ll waste a bunch of my time. And I’m relatively successful. Like I said, I don’t have typically obsessive behavior. I don’t generally stay up late watching BTS stuff, I never spend money on merch or concerts, I don’t fantasize about the members (honestly, most of the time, I see them as my “kids”, haha! Like I’m really proud of their accomplishments and find them really sweet and dorky. Jhope is my favourite member because he’s such a ball of sunshine, I admire him so much and actually find myself imitating his positive attitude). I honestly don’t think I’m obsessed, because I know that God is number one.

    However, I think I have a problem with guilt. Whenever I watch BTS videos or spend time online instead of doing homework, I feel really bad about it. Even if it isn’t bringing my grades down or anything. Like, last week, I had no homework for the first time in FOREVER, and to celebrate, I spent a couple hours binge watching BTS vids. It wasn’t necessarily wrong, but I still felt kind of bad about being “unproductive”. Even though I had finished all my work! I’m a very high achiever and I’ve been told I’m too hard on myself. I don’t want to have to feel guilty about my love for BTS. Things have gotten better lately, since I discovered my friends are ARMYs too, so that brings me out of my isolation a bit. We talk about all the inside jokes and which songs we like, it’s great. I also have been trying to reduce my time online for Lent. I’ve been more or less successful, but I have been able to stay away from BTS binge-ing for the most part. The trouble is that it stresses me out. It’s like I’m unhappy because I’m purposefully avoiding things I enjoy and am anxious about breaking my fast.

    I think my problem is that I’m struggling to find a balance between discipline and showing myself grace. I don’t want to completely let go of the guilt, for fear of being consumed by this hobby. But I also don’t want to be beating myself up over something that isn’t necessarily wrong. Does anyone have ideas for specific boundaries I can set for myself? I’m trying to seek God’s will in all this, but it’s hard when my self-deprecating emotions get in the way (btw guys, don’t worry, I know that I am a deeply beloved child of God who has been totally forgiven, it’s just that sometimes it’s hard to remember that). I pray that I’ll be able to learn self-control, but also grace. Right now, I think I just need help distinguishing between what’s REALLY unhealthy and what the Devil is telling me to feel guilty about.

    Thank you to everyone who’s shared about their struggles in this thread! I’m thankful to God for protecting my heart from such intense addiction. But I’m also aware that I need to stay very vigilant in this.

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    • Maddie
      Maddie says:

      As a 14 year old, I am going through the EXACT same problem. I gave up BTS and Kpop for Lent and sometimes, temptation got the best of me. I got better at it but after Lent, I fell back to obsession. I felt really bad over the willful sin and was scared I lost my salvation. I asked God to forgive me at least 10 times because I just kept obsessing over them. I realized that I needed to stop and keep the seven boys as a hobby. Not an idol. And now if I watch too much for a period of time, I will feel a little guilty and stop. I would try setting an alarm or stopwatch for how long you should spend time with Jesus and how much with BTS. And if you do feel unworthy and that He won’t forgive you for obsessing, He WILL forgive you. Ask for forgiveness and repent from the obsession. Also, instead of listening to BTS getting ready for school (if you still do go to school and listen to BTS in the morning) listen to a sermon preaching (I recommend Steven Furtick). It will be a good start for the day. And on the ride home as an award for doing good in school, listen to BTS on the bus or in the car. Try to read more of your Bible at night and make time SPECIFICALLY FOR JESUS. Put your phone and electronics in a drawer on the other side of your room and just read. Let the Holy Spirit flood you with the Word. Keep 2 journals, one for Sermon Notes, and one for Bible notes. You can watch BTS videos but I would try to stay away from the cracks and meme videos (those tend to have a lot of bad words in them). Also, if you want to grow your relationship with Christ, I would recommend listening to sermons by Steven Furtick and watching youtube channels like Lion of Judah (they have SUPER motivational videos. I would recommend watching Failure) and also watching The Beat By Allen Parr. I pray for healing in your heart and that your relationship will grow bigger and God would help you FIGHT any doubts and worries. Blessings, Maddie.

  25. Anya
    Anya says:

    Thank you for sharing this, this is the first website I found that really talk about this struggle, and I’m so glad that I’m not alone.

    I began to like Kpop when I was in Elementary School, I’m a Shawol and there’s no single day that I didn’t watch a korea video or SHINee MVs, and I even stay up late night to watch some korean show, I start to forget about read the Bible and my family really against me with all this idolize thing. Everytime my family pray together, my mom would pray more about my addicting habit, about how I cry if my mom told me not to watch korea videos. The addicting become more and more. On my Junior High School final examination I don’t study, but I watch bunch of kpop videos that made my final score really bad.

    When I go to Senior High School, I decided that this is not the right thing to do, I’ve been lost for so long that I feel so sinful for doing all this thing. I start to delete all of my korean videos that actually a loooot, I choose to not open my twitter to avoid the interaction with other fangirls, but it was so hard to do that it make me frustate. Then I realize that all I need to do is given all my life to Him, let Him work in my life, all I need to do is realize that He will love me no matter what, and also give all my love to Him and not anything else.

    I’ve been stop addicting for about 3 years, but then recently Jonghyun passed away. As a shawol my heart break hearing the news, as a Christian I know that what Jonghyun did is wrong, but the very first week I feel really mad that why God not stop him to do that because I know that when you ended your own life you will go to hell. I also mad to myself that maybe if I didn’t stop being a fangirl I could share the gospel to him or any other fangirl. I also gaining more information about SHINee again and others kpop stuff because I miss how happy I am when I watch korea videos. The habit back again, and this time I feel like I can stop this whole thing again.

    One time I come to the church and the pastor preach about someone who ended his own life, its said that it because he felt that he doesn’t have any hope anymore in life. Then I realize that I will find hope in God, that I can stop all this habit if keep closer to Him, if I love Him, I don’t need anything in this world, because I will walk in His way and He already decide everything for me so I should not be afraid. I still sad about Jonghyun but now its getting better, I learn to accept that everything happens has a purpose from God

    I was searching about kpop star testimony that I happen to be found this website, I’m still struggling to not watch bunch of kpop videos on youtube but now its going way more better, and thanks to this website I feel more confident to stop this addicting thing. Please pray for me and for other kpop fans that maybe still struggle with this habit:) God Bless You all!

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    • YMI
      YMI says:

      Wow, thanks Anya, we’re so encouraged that this article has spoken to you! And we’d be praying for you in your journey as you struggle with this.

  26. Cutie
    Cutie says:

    I am a BTS fan and I really like them I watch all of their Videos and I decided to pray for them to Know God too since my Sister told me to pray for them. I really like BTS and I feel empty inside too and I am now stuck into that worls so all I did is I took my Bibke Journal and start doing it again ( Im still working on iy right now) And I asked my Sister if I could balance watching BTS and God and she said that bit by bit I will get over out of BTS. But I really like them and I changed my mind too just be a fan and not making them My Idol but also to serve God too….So is it really okay to watch their videos (BTS) and just be a Fan supporting them and praying for them? But not making them as my Idol and still serve God?

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    • Cutie
      Cutie says:

      Email me ynakaycanton@gmail.com

      P.S I really like them because they are handsome and talented is it really ok? I am really a BTS fan in here and they also make me happy and laugh please answer 🙂
      Is it really ok?

    • Cutie
      Cutie says:

      ANOTHER ADDITION!
      I am really stuck and like it became my habit but I know that my obsession with them (not that much obssesed) will be gone( I am working on it).

  27. Emma
    Emma says:

    What is the definition of idolising someone? I know that an idol is to adore something or someone. I adore kpop especially BTS. I look to Bts for entertainment, variety content and songs. I also am at the edge of my seat while waiting two minutes before their next mv is released. I also watch their content everyday when im free. I have their posters on my wall, almost all their songs on my phone and i follow many fan accounts on insta. Only now i realise how much i ignored God. I do my nightly prayers with no sincerity. I pray for the sake of praying. I read that you started getting over kpop obsession when u were in university. Im in high school now and i want to get rid of my obsession because i know that God is more important than anything. But i honestly can’t live a day without watching at least one BTS video (fan made or official) because they simply bring me happiness. I desperately want to get rid of this obsession. At university age, i guess its easier to control obsession cuz of the maturity level. Im only 15 and i don’t know how to start. Also, is what I am currently doing as a fan idolising them? (I do adore bts. I watch their videos purely for entertainment and happiness) If not, what am I doing wrong? How can I start (not idolising them)?

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  28. Jesse
    Jesse says:

    Unnie… this is what I’m going through now and I’m obsessed with kpop and I’m praying for my favourite idol that he should preach about God so that most of his fans will spend time with God.. I’m so glad to see this post.. this is exactly what I’m going through now.. thank you so much for sharing this article sister.. God bless you

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  29. mariae
    mariae says:

    We guys do really have the same struggle! I just fell in love with BTS iabout 2 weeks ago and now I kept on asking if stanning them is okay. But deep down in my heart it says that it is not okay if I am devoting all of my time watching their videos and not being able to reflect on God’s word. That really made me guilty at some point. So i pray that God will transform me in His word and grow deeper in Him

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  30. Maria
    Maria says:

    Please pray for me because I have same situation with EXO and BTS and others .I whant to worship God and pray and read Bible but all time ,each free second I spend with some videos and story’s about artists. Thank you all for your stories and God bless you all.

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  31. Keiarra
    Keiarra says:

    This article has really touched me and blessed me because I always thought I was the only one going through that. I’m a Christian and always have been I was into K-pop at a very young age but then when BTS came I was really into them. I was a little obsessed, but not to the point where I wanted to be their girlfriend or something it was more of wanting to get to know them personally I had also prayed to God to be able to meet them. But with that, I ended up going to God for everything he really showed me how to be on fire for him. I still like BTS but not as much as I use to like them. I try finding old videos of them because the new videos are way too much they are a little bit sexual and I don’t like that at all. God has really worked on me and I’m so grateful to know an awesome God like him and I always pray that God will show himself to BTS and any other kpop idol out there or any famous person for that matter. God made us all in his image and we should love one another and pray for each other. BTS and all the other people are just normal people just like us all they have is a different job title. My pastor talked about this one day. No one should ever be higher than God.

    I pray that BTS and all the others will see the beautiful works of God. Because without God they wouldn’t have any of the talents they have. God is love and he always will be and I love that I know him and I thank him for every single thing he has done in my life and I don’t regret anything I’ve been through. I like the life lessons that God has put me through it has helped me to truly mature in my walk with him and my walk in love.

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