Love VS Porn

By Jeff Olson

CS Lewis once said, “The process of living seems to consist in coming to realize truths so ancient and simple that, if stated, they sound like barren platitudes.”

At the risk of sounding too simplistic, I often suggest to men (and remind myself) that one of the most powerful weapons against the destructive and enslaving forces of pornography is love. Simply put, love sees people as people, not objects. As Jesus put, to see people as people is to “love your neighbor as you love yourself ” (Matthew 22:39). It to recognize that the needs and desires of others are just as legitimate as our own.

When a man looks at porn, he is not thinking of the women (or the men) on the screen as people. At that moment, they are nothing more than objects to him. In order to look and keep looking, he has to dehumanize them. And when he does, he will lose to porn.

The enslaving forces of porn, however, begin to lose their grip when love enters the picture. With love is on the scene, a man will no longer view a woman on the screen as merely an object to be used and exploited for his own sexual gratification. Instead, love compels him to honor her as a fellow human being who has needs, dreams, and hurts as legitimate as his own. And in seeing her as the person she is, he is freed to turn away and keep away from porn.

Seem too simple? You will have to be judge of that. But if you’re a man addicted to looking porn, I encourage you to start here. When you are broken over seeing women as objects to be used and start to see them as the precious fellow image bearers that they are, porn will start to lose its appeal.

5 replies
  1. Nishan
    Nishan says:

    This is great! Long story put short 🙂

    Adding to the note..Having accountability partners is one of the greatest way in which we can get rid of this addiction. To whom you would be able to share everything about you 🙂

    Great,

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  2. Cindy
    Cindy says:

    I really like this story and strongly agree. One of the guys who tryed to date me couldn’t really form a relationship with me because I would do anything sexual. One day I found out he looked up porn and asked him to stop looking up porn and now we have a strong and healthy relationship. If you read this and you are currenty trying to get into a relationship you need to stop looking it up because it will consume your heart and mind and leave no room for them.

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  3. min xiong
    min xiong says:

    2 Timothy 2:24–26 (ESV)

    24 And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone, able to teach, patiently enduring evil, 25 correcting his opponents with gentleness. God may perhaps grant them repentance leading to a knowledge of the truth, 26 and they may come to their senses…

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